Take advantage of another couple’s active dating life by going on double dates with them.
Let the other couple decide where you guys want to go and what you want to do.
For all you know, they may suggest outdoor picnics and activities that will force your lazy husband to see all the fun he was missing out on all this time.
Push your husband to the gym
You can drive your man’s laziness away by slowly bringing a natural change in his habits and lifestyles.
The first step to do is to get your lazy husband a gym membership. If he has never worked out before, sign him up with a personal trainer for a few basic sessions.
Looking at buff bodies in the gym will most likely motivate your lazy husband to lose weight and get in shape too. This will spark a revolutionary change in his lifestyle, eating, and sleeping habits.
Don’t blame yourself
Don’t make the common mistake of accepting part blame for your husband’s laziness.
You must remember that his lazy attitude is something that he needs to fix. It is not something that is your fault.
Whether it is helping you with chores in the house or the fact that he is not getting off the couch and sorting his employment issues out, don’t entertain any of your husband’s claims that you have made him lazy.
The slightest of self-guilt will make you feel that you are partly to blame for something that is not your mistake in the first place.
Encourage him to go out
Hooking up with friends to play ball on fixed days of the week is something that many busy professionals do.
You can encourage your lazy husband to do the same thing. Get him to call some of his old buddies or workmates and fix a day when they can meet and shoot some hoops.
The idea behind doing this is the same as other suggestions – getting your lazy husband off the couch.
Playing sports with friends will also get him out of his shell and help him become the same confident man you fell in love with a decade back.
Go out with your friends
If your lazy husband refuses to budge from his comfy sofa chair in the living room, go out with your own friends and their spouses.
Take a lot of selfies with your iPhone and show them to your husband when you come back.
Seeing you have fun with other people may light up a spark of jealousy in him.
Your hubby will feel like he is missing out on sharing good times with you.
He may feel like accompanying you the next time you go out with your friends.
Plan fun outdoor dates
If your husband’s laziness is making you both spend your weekend indoors doing nothing but watching TV, turn your dating quotient around by planning dates in which you need to step outside the house.
More importantly, you will give your children excuses to be lazy too.
For example, if you get angry at your son for not cleaning out his bedroom, he may calmly reply, ‘Dad doesn’t do it despite you yelling at him all the time. Then why should I do it?’
Avoid making sweeping statements
Like most other issues in life, your husband’s laziness is best dealt with in a direct and specific manner.
Use specific examples instead of vague and sweeping statements when you have an argument with him about his lazy behavior around the house.
Here are some examples.
Instead of saying ‘You never help me with the dishes’ say ‘Thursday was your turn to take the dishes out from the washer, and you did not. You have been doing this every time.’
Instead of saying ‘We never get to go out because you are always hooked to your stupid video game’ say ‘We haven’t gone out since the last two Fridays because you were playing video games. It is the same story this weekend too.’
Instead of saying ‘You never take me out on romantic dates’ ask him ‘When was the last time you took me out?’
Instead of saying ‘You have not tried hard enough to find a new job,’ say ‘You have handed in just two new job applications. That is not enough.’
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I’m Hannah Butler, an English teacher. Besides, I like writing so that I devote my spare time to working for WriteMyPaper4Me. In this case, I have a possibility to share my experience with other women.