Guarding Yourself And Your Relationship

Guarding Yourself And Your Relationship

Note to Self:

“Guard Your Tongue Against Sharing Intimate Details about Yourself, Your Spouse, or Relationship”

Reminders to handle trusted information with care and guarding your tongue during difficult times will come in handy. It is important to be slow to speak to others about what your spouse has shared. When you speak to others outside of the home, stay away from disclosing sacred moments, and entrusted information pertaining to what is happening with you, or your spouse.

Maintain trust in your relationship

Trust is a vital component of a relationship. You can maintain trust by holding confidential things, situations, and information in confidence. When you are triggered, frustrated, mad, bewildered, taken aback, not in agreement, wanting advice, desiring support, or wanting to control situations that are beyond your control; do not vent nor over share information to outsiders. Private information about your marital relationship must be handled with care.  

Note to Self (handling all confidential information with care)

Handle the below confidential information with care and remember to nurture yourself, your spouse and your relationship.

  • Past death, or divorce details
  • Intimate details like miscarriage, erectile dysfunction
  • Issues like addictions in gambling, drugs, alcohol, or sex with care
  • Mental, physical disorder, or illness
  • Discussing in-laws, friends, children, or co-workers
  • Disfiguration, discolored, or deteriorating
  • Loss of limbs, organs, voice, sight, or touch
  • Legal issues and concerns
  • Whether loss of finances, career, or home

A note to self will be a reminder that fragile moments, transitions, and information shared should be handled with care. Over sharing about your relationship, and spouse may create doubt that you can’t be trusted with sacred information. Assure your spouse that his or her experiences and journey is in safe keeping by staying trustworthy.

Sharing a loved one’s sacred moments, experiences, journey, addiction, medical issues, mental issues, financial issues, legal issues, family information, or loss when given in confidence certainly qualifies as a betrayal of trust. Trust is built and must be preserved. When trust is betrayed, it takes time to gain it back. The extent to gaining trust back depends on how severe the trust was broken, how often, and the will to work towards trusting again. Therefore, always remember to keep a Note to Self near and handle your marital journey with care.  

Janelle is an experienced psychotherapist, she established Life Balance Counseling private practice in Aurora, Colorado August 2011. She works with a vast population. She specializes in anxiety, grief, loss, ADHD, and relationship conflict. She guides clients so they may achieve balance in their lives by accessing resources, fostering healthy relationships, managing stress, using healthy coping skills, sustaining self-worth, and value. She completed her master’s degree in Counseling from Regis University. She is a member of the American Counseling Association, Rho Upsilon Chi- Chi Sigma Iota, and the Colorado Black Chamber of Commerce.

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