It’s hard enough stepping out of your comfort zone to start dating again. But once you do, you need to prepare yourself for that first date.
Best first date tips say it is crucial to make a good first impression by not saying or doing things that would turn your date off, but it is also important to be genuine and authentic.
There are several things to consider before you start preparing yourself for your date.
First date tips to make your date great
1. Arm yourself with fundamental questions
One of the basic things to do is to arm yourself with fundamental questions that will reveal some interests and also the character of your date, without making him/her feel uncomfortable.
For instance, you may ask, “What kind of work do you do? Tell me about it. Or what kinds of things do you do in your leisure time? Have you traveled much? What is the hardest thing you’ve ever done? Do you have any hidden talents?”
2. Avoid certain questions or topics
On the other hand, there are also certain questions you should never ask on the first date.
You’re trying to avoid those awkward moments that lead to unpleasant silences.
The rule is to avoid any question that puts someone on the spot where YOU would feel uncomfortable answering yourself.
So, for instance, avoid topics about previous relationships or divorce and other sensitive matters related to mental health issues, salaries, politics, physical features on you or your date, your last therapy session or recent argument with your boss, and so on.
3. Be an attentive listener
It is a lot easier to learn how to be a memorable first date. All you need to do is just to have the conversation flow in a slow, smooth and natural way.
Allow the conversation to flow naturally and smoothly.
You do this by being an attentive listener and a good conversationalist. Avoid monopolizing the conversation, but ask open-ended questions that lend itself to more than a Yes/No answer.
4. Never ignore body language
Remember, do not ignore your date’s body language.
Be aware of any verbal or nonverbal cues that make you aware of how the evening is going.
Does your date look bored, always looking at his/her watch? Or does he/she smile and look you in the eyes? Always remain mindful of how you are coming across to the other person so you make the best possible impression.
5. Trust your intuition
This is one of the effective first date tips to make a great impression.
The gut feeling let you know things which are good or bad. Pay attention to more than just words.
What is it about your date’s voice tone, posture, facial expressions and hand movements that are making you concerned? What is your date doing that is contradictory to what he/she is saying?
You can likely tell if you find someone safe, trustworthy, authentic and real.
Sometimes you see things before they happen
Finding ways to make a good impression on the first date is very important. In fact, your first date is a stepping stone to having a second and third date.
But sometimes you know right away that things are not going well. Your date is argumentative, loud, demonstrative, rude, egocentric and just plain annoying. Obviously, you don’t want to tolerate a long evening with someone you are not compatible with.
However, you also don’t want to judge too quickly. It could be first date jitters that are causing him/her to act so awfully.
Sometimes it’s good to give the other person another chance, because you both may just be too overwhelmed with nervousness to be comfortable and yourself.
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