Who said it was okay to stop dating your spouse?
I would not recommend any married couple to stop dating. It is important to spend as much quality time with your spouse. Being married already has its challenges, so don’t allow the “Relationship Invaders” stop you from being connected during the week.
So how do we choose a date night you ask?
I encourage couples to identify a day and time within the week that can not be compromised with anything. When couples choose a day within the week, this prepares the couple to have something to look forward with each other. Please note this does take teamwork and effort, so each spouse must be fully committed.
Here are a few things that should be considered to ensure that your date night goes well
- Set a specific time that will not be compromised (Stay committed to time)
- If you have children get a babysitter. (no children allowed)
- Get excited planning your date night (movies, dinner, give each other a massage etc.)
- Send a romantic sexy text reminder either the day before or on the day of your date night (“Hey love! You are so sexy I cannot wait to have you all to myself”).
- Turn your cell phone off
- Just focus on each other
Now that you have identified the day, time and location all your energy should be focused on your spouse. Have a good time and enjoy each other’s conversation and company. Do not talk about work and or the children.
Focus on your relationship with your spouse
Share a fun fact about yourself that your spouse may not know. Just shower love on each other and give your all to your spouse. Date nights are meant to be relaxing, fun and rekindling the love and commitment in your marriage.
No negative conversations are allowed on date nights. Please know that each spouse must stay present in the moment during date night.
Give each other compliments and talk about future for your marriage. God ordained marriage for a reason. This is a sacred relationship that should be upheld and treated with love a respect. Tell your spouse how much you love them and become one with your spouse. The date night should be about you and your spouse only. This is the time to rekindle what you have been missing in your marriage.
Have fun, laugh and enjoy each other’s company. Please stay totally involved throughout the entire date.
Please remember date night does not have to cost you anything
There are always free things to do in your community. Just be creative if you are on a tight or limited budget.
The goal of date night is not about spending money, it is about spending quality time with your spouse. Have fun and enjoy each other’s company. Remember you can choose whatever you would like to do on your date night. Please don’t over think the process, just do it and never stop dating your spouse!
Want to have a happier, healthier marriage?
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
More by Koaster Brim