In order for a marriage to thrive and grow each partner must be willing to give 200 percent efforts at all times. Now I know you are thinking about the 200 percent, how and when anyone can give that much of effort and time. Intimacy within the relationship is so critical like blood running through our veins. If couples are not staying intentionally connected within their relationship “Invader Loopholes” can creep in. Invaders Loopholes can make a marriage toxic and very unhealthy so it is important to safeguard your relationship. Here are a few invaders that I suggest couples must be aware of as follows:
1. The invisible invader: Communication gap
This invader is when one spouse does not communicate with their spouse at all throughout the day and when they do it is a very limited conversation and often reflects only on themselves.
2. The invisible invader: Loneliness
This invader is when one partner feels overwhelmed with loneliness because they are starving for some attention from their spouse. This invader causes the lonely partner to seek attention outside of the marriage. Lack of intimacy can be lethal for a relationship.
3. The invisible invader: Workaholism
This invader is when one or both spouses are working so much that they do not have an opportunity to reconnect with each other throughout the day. Which often causes these individuals to become further distant and often leads to one partner or both feel that they are living with a roommate or a friend.
4. The invisible invader: Resentment
This invader can cause great damage to an already strained marriage if not properly handled or correct immediately. Resentment causes marital conflict in a relationship.
5. The invisible invader: Dissatisfaction
This invader is when one spouse is not satisfied with finances, sex, communication etc. This invader must be attended to as soon as possible because this often leads the relationship extremely vulnerable for self-seeking fulfillment.
It is very critical that couples are exercising their rights to be involved and in touch throughout the day to build an emotional connection with your spouse. Couples should never give an opportunity for an invader to form or attack their relationship. In order to sustain a healthy marriage, each partner must be willing to do the work with no boundaries in sustaining a healthy marriage at all times. It is imperative in order for the marriage to be ever evolving that couples must take the time to nurture their relationship with each other.
Here are a few suggestions that I often encourage couples to do throughout the week.
- Be intentional text your spouse sexy and fun messages throughout the day.
- Be intentional cook or order your spouse favorite meal.
- Be intentional take a shower or bath together.
- Be intentional have a date night (Both spouses will need to agree on a day out of the week ) never stop dating your spouse
- Be intentional “Make Love” to your spouse as often and on a regular basis. Love on your spouse as often as possible. 6. Be Intentional Go to bed together.
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