And who knows what you may get in return? Exciting!
Being single on Valentine’s day
A word of caution! The day is not exciting for all.
As a veteran single on Valentine’s Day, I can assure you it sucks. Your spinsterhood is basically scrubbed in your face by the world.
The only way to stop people seeing you sad is to do the unexpected – and pretend you loveValentine’s Day. How fun!
What are you two up to? That’s not a big enough gift, get him this!
Really, you just want the whole sordid show to be over.
Anyway, this year I have decided to do Valentine’s Day differently.
Why should I miss out on all the fun? Yet by the same token, why should I celebrate a day that doesn’t include me?
It’s a crunchy conundrum that’s for sure. But there is a way! By being single on Valentine’s day, I have decided to be MY own Valentine.
Sure, we should all “love ourselves” every day, and we don’t need to complete ourselves through someone else.
We all need to learn to “be alone” – Bla blah, etc. That can all be done in the mind – for free.
What to do on Valentine’s day when you’re single?
I’m talking about some full-on pampering! This Valentine’s Day, I am taking ME on a date.
Being single on Valentine’s day, I might have a tinkle on Tinder or hit up Hinge to bring along a date for the company, but this night is about me.
There are a lot of things to do on Valentine’s day when single. Like, I will treat myself to all those things I agonized over – then decided I couldn’t afford, or didn’t deserve, or “that’s the kind of thing you wait for someone to buy you as a present”.
Screw that logic, you only live once, and money is for spending!
Being single on Valentine’s day, do things for other people.
From a selfish perspective, this actually really helps you too! Send some “anonymous admirer” Valentine’s to your single gal pals. (I think we ladies feel the single sting more than our bachelor buddies).
Being single on Valentine’s day, give a real gift from the heart – donate some blood!
Most importantly though, be kind to yourself. The world we live in celebrates convention, idolizes success and puts perfect couples on pedestals. Being single is actually amazing!
You don’t have to compromise. You are free, independent and you could do anything – anywhere, no strings. You can focus on YOU and build yourself into the dream future you that would make your six-year-old self-proud.
On this day that slavishly fawns upon conventional, couple love. It is the perfect opportunity to send a reminder. Love is not always about two people.
Love yourself. Love the world. Love strangers.
Being single on Valentine’s day, love Valentine’s Day. You deserve it!
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Nellie English is a freelance writer, free thinker and “self-styled pirate”. She has published two books on Amazon and writes for Under Lucky Stars and tech journals. Born to a Zimbabwean father and an Irish mother she considers herself a globe-trotting nomad with a thirst for adventure and a penchant for disaster. She lives in Barcelona with her fiancé and spritely toddler. She loves playing guitar and doodling, going on horse-riding adventures and she tells a roaring good yarn. You can read about her former rum-fuelled and now baby-filled shenanigans in Barcelona at her blog: piratenell.com. Hey, maybe you’ll even want to buy her book or commission some art?