Falling in love is beautiful. It is usually a lot of fun when you begin with a new relationship.
The world transforms into a beautiful place, you tend to feel happy most of the time, and you miss your special one when they are not around.
But, along with this inundated happiness, you might also be getting the jitters regarding, if you are going the right way, and if the other person likes you as much, could things get serious and what would be the future of this relationship.
But don’t worry. It is normal to have these sneaking suspicions when you are stepping into a new relationship.
But, starting a relationship can be worry-free and a lot more fun in the long run if you learn to give attention to the little intricacies of a healthy and fulfilling bond.
So, how to start a new relationship? And what to do when you start a relationship?
Here are given a couple of essential pieces of advice that will elucidate you on the things you need in a relationship.
These tips for starting a new relationship can help you avoid the pitfalls and pave a way towards a happy, long-term bonding.
1. Know what you are really attracted to
It is easy to fall in love, but the real challenge is in maintaining the relationship and keeping the spark alive even after the honeymoon period is over.
So, before deep-diving into a relationship, it is essential for you to analyze what do you really like about the person you are dating.
Ask yourself, what are you really attracted to? Why do you want to be in a relationship with this person?
If you feel that its just infatuation, you must give it a serious thought before the other person gets deeply involved. But, if the person you are dating too is looking for short-term pleasures, you may go ahead and have some fun.
But, if you are looking for a loving, lasting relationship, you must make sure if you genuinely like the person for the way they are.
2. Don’t rush into getting physically intimate
When it comes to being physically intimate, there is no such thing called too soon or too late. The right time to get intimate is when both the people are willing to go for it.
If you get into physical intimacy too soon, you are likely to overlook the other aspects and miss bonding with the person on a deeper level.
You might enjoy having sex with the person, till its all rosy. But, when sex becomes monotonous and boring, you might be taken aback to know that the two of you have nothing else in common.
It won’t take you long to break-up with your partner if you are together just for sex and nothing else.
3. Be watchful of the red flags
Obviously your feet don’t seem to be touching the ground when you begin with a new relationship. But, despite being soaked in this incredible feeling of ‘new love,’ it is essential not to lose your mind.
Overlooking the red flags will only add up to your troubles and delay the fated demise of your relationship.
You must watch out for the relationship red flags. For instance, if your new love is criticizing you too often or gaslighting, or if you catch them lying or cooking up stories too often, or if they are disrespectful towards you and showing signs of narcissism, it would be wise for you to step back.
Take time to analyze the situation. You may even choose to confront them if something that is happening too frequently is bothering you.
When you don’t feel quite right at the beginning of your new relationship, it is better to back off than regret later.
2. Turn a deaf ear to your negative thoughts
When you are starting a new relationship with a man or a woman, your inner critic is ought to peep out and become hyperactive.
At the inception, it is quite likely for you to have negative thoughts like, you are not got enough or what you did was dumb, or what you said was not right, and so on.
You can spend hours on being self-critical and fall prey to sleepless nights. But, this won’t do good, both to you as well as the one you are dating.
So, have confidence and be yourself when you are with your loved one. Don’t try to put up a facade and don’t be judgmental about all your actions and words.
3. Apologize when you are wrong
You are neither God nor Google who is never allowed to err.
It’s okay if you mistakenly say something that you shouldn’t or behave in a way that is hurtful. It can happen to anyone.
What is essential is to realize if you have faltered or hurt your loved one. Once you realize, you must not shy away from apologizing.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.