Although it seems like it is the guy who makes all the effort to impress a girl, going on a date can be a hit-or-miss for many women out there. Some girls are clueless on how they should behave when they are out with a guy, while others always end up wondering why the guys they date for the first time never called them back. If this sounds all too familiar, then there are some things you need to learn to improve your dating skills.
Here are some important dating tips and advice for women:
1. Keep it cool
We all know that it is nerve-wracking to go on a date for the first time with someone you really like. But you should learn to relax. If not, you will be acting all stiff and tongue tied all throughout your date. I don’t think that is the first impression you would want to give a guy; especially if you plan to go out on a second date with him. Keep it cool and try to have as much fun as you can. Try not to worry too much, and just let things happen the way they should.
2. Be yourself
I know you must have heard the words “be yourself” many times over, but believe me, there is no one else you would rather be than yourself. You do not have to pretend to be someone you’re not just to impress a guy. If the guy you are dating doesn’t like you for who you are, then he doesn’t deserve to go out with you. Show your date your true colors from the very beginning so you will know if he likes and accepts the real you.
3. Lower your expectations
As the saying goes, expect the worst and hope for the best. If you have high expectations when you go out with someone, it is more likely that something will disappoint you. Every date you will be on is unpredictable and different from the other, so just take things as they happen. Try to have fun and make the most of each experience.
4. Don’t act too needy
One of the most important dating tips for women is that you should remember to never act too needy or too eager to make the guy like you. Guys like it when a girl shows an obvious attraction to him, but if you seem more aggressive than he is, he may think that there is something wrong with you.
5. Take risks
Your date might think that you are uninterested in him if you are too careful to open up or are afraid to get a little close and personal. If you like a guy, do not be afraid to flirt a little to show your attraction to him. If you are not so sure that you like your date or not, give him the benefit of the doubt and try to get to know him better. Who knows? He may have qualities that you are looking for in a man.
6. Keep up the conversation
To make a date interesting, you have to be able to hold a good conversation with a guy. Loosen up and laugh at a few of your date’s funny jokes. Throw in a few funny stories yourself to keep the ball rolling. You can share a few things about yourself, but not too much that you won’t have anything else to talk about on your next date.
7. Don’t assume anything
Another crucial dating (and relationship) advice for women is to never assume anything. Do not jump into the conclusion that your date is falling in love with you or that the guy will be dating you exclusively right away. Just because you had a good time together doesn’t mean he won’t go out with other girls or do something to disappoint you. Just enjoy the moment and take things slow.
8. Bring your own money
Most men would reach out for the check after a date. But there are also some who may want to split the bill, so always be ready to pay for your own meals every time you go out on a date.
9. Listen to your intuition
It’s a good thing we girls have been given a special gift called women’s intuition. Just like spider-senses, we can sense danger as it come. If something feels wrong when you are with a guy, you may just be right. Or if you have that gut feeling that you are with the wrong person, you probably are. Be smart enough to listen and trust your own intuition. It may just save you from heartbreak.
10. Look out for red flags
Aside from trusting your instincts, be on the lookout for signs that your date is not the kind of guy you would want to be involved with. If he shows inappropriate behavior or doesn’t seem to be honest about who he really is, then it is best that you do not see him ever again.
11. Learn to say “no”
Some guys can make you feel uncomfortable by saying offensive things or by getting too close and touching you all the time while you are talking. Do not tolerate this kind of behavior. Learn to say “No” and let him know when you are not okay with how he is treating you.
12. Do not settle
If you are not having a good time, you do not have to stay and settle for the guy you are dating. You can politely say you need to be elsewhere if things are not going so well on the date. You do not have to prolong the torture of sitting through a date that is obviously going downhill.
13. Learn from experience
Lastly, to master the art of dating, you have to read up on a lot of dating tips. Of course, with each date that you go on, there is a lesson to be learned. You will become wiser with your date choices and you learn to handle situations better with more experience.