9 Habits of Strong and Healthy Couples

9 Habits of Strong and Healthy Couples

When it comes to what makes a healthy romantic relationship, the “expectations” differ from couple to couple. Structuring a trusting and positive partnership requires effort and time. For a relationship to grow and stay strong, both parties will need to put in the work. Here are a few habits that will help create and maintain a happy and healthy partnership.

1. Communication

You know the saying, communication is key. Communication is the most important quality of a healthy relationship. Not everyone, however, knows how to communicate appropriately; or how to communicate at all. Happy and healthy couples vocalize their love for one another. They often say “I love you” and offer compliments to their partner. You will also find healthy couples discussing problems, and not sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow, individuals need to be able to honestly discuss their feelings. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable the conversation, open and honest communication will make a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.

2. Respect

Respecting your partner comes in several different forms. Maintaining a relationship means respecting your partner’s time, heart, character, and trust. Unfortunately, there are different actions people do in relationships that can break down respect. Actions such as name-calling, talking negatively about the other to friends

3. Time apart

As previously mentioned, spending time with your partner is important. However, it is also important to spend time apart. Being able to plug into your own interest and remain independent is essential. When couples spend too much time together, it is likely to create an unhealthy codependence. Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long-lasting partnership.

4. Love language

Gary Chapman conceived the notion that men and women have five love languages; words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch. It’s important to not only know your love language, but also the language of your partner.

5. Appreciation

We often forget to tell our significant others that we appreciate them. Sure you may think it, but don’t always say it aloud or remember to show your appreciation. Give your partner the appreciation they deserve. This can be done with words, cards, flowers, acts of kindness, or more.

6. Positive Vs. Negative

These days, the negative can easily overtake our day. We hate our jobs, become annoyed with our friends, and our significant other will, at times, work our last nerve. During the negative, it is important that we look at our partner’s positive qualities, and not only the negative qualities.

7. Choose your battles

Every relationship will have disagreements and arguments. However, arguing over every little nuisance your significant other does or says does absolutely nothing to nurture a healthy and happy relationship. Word of advice: choose your battles wisely. Ask yourself if the argument is worth it, or even if the nuisance is worth an argument.

8. Sex

Let’s talk about sex, baby. Let’s talk about how important it is in enriching a healthy and thriving relationship. The more you have sex, the more you want it. The opposite of this is true as well. The less you have sex, the less you want it; and, unfortunately, the less you will feel connected to your partner. Keep your sex life alive and interesting. “Spicing it up” is not only a term for the kitchen.

9. Don’t compare

The grass is not always greener on the other side. We are all susceptible to the comparison trap; the jobs others have, their homes, their clothes, etc. Due to the wonderful world of social media, it’s extremely easy to compare your relationship to a “snapshot” of another person’s happiness. Just remember, healthy and happy couples have no need to see what the grass looks like on the other side; they are happy with the view from their own front door.


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Sandra Williams
Psychotherapist, LPC, NCC
Sandra is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Georgia; and a National Certified Counselor. She is a private practitioner in Atlanta, GA who works with a diverse population of children, teens, young adults, and families. Her areas of expertise include Grief, Loss and Bereavement, Life Transition, Relationship Building, Self-Confidence Building, Depression, Anxiety, and Women’s Issues.

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