Getting married is one of the best experiences of life. You are all set to start on a new journey in life, a journey that most of us wish lasts forever. However, it is not that simple.
A happy, successful marriage requires time, patience and ample efforts from both the parties involved. Therefore, it is important that you make healthy habits a part of your marriage and engage in a productive premarital conversation around it.
These habits should be included in you and your partner’s premarital lives and eventually carried on into your married lives. In the midst of all the wedding preparations, it is vital that the bride and groom also spare some time in engaging in a premarital conversation about cultivating the habits mentioned below in order to ensure that they live a contented married life.
1. Effective communication is a must
Communication is said to be the key for any relationship to flourish, be it with your romantic partner or coworkers and even, family and friends. It is important that you have honest, open communication with each other to avoid misunderstandings.
You and your partner should be comfortable enough with each to talk about anything, be it any marital concerns, financial troubles, etc. This is a great way to avoid unwanted conflicts and arguments among couples.
2. Give each other sometime each day
Making sure that you and your partner enjoy some quality time with each other is of immense significance. Be it in the morning or the end of the day, you and your partner need to sit down to have some deep, meaningful talk where you talk about different aspects of your day.
During this time, make sure that your partner has your undivided attention where you are not using any kind of electrical device. In addition, maintain eye contact and respond well to them so that they know that you are all ears to what they have to say.
3. Indulge in physical intimacy
Being able to connect physically is what distinguishes a happy, healthy marriage.
Being physically intimate is considered a great way for a couple to connect, share and strengthen their bond.
It is also of great help to have a premarital talk about sexual fantasies any of you may have as it may help fire up your time in the bedroom once you are married.
4. Show appreciation and affection towards each other
Saying something as simple as ‘thank you’ is a great way to show your appreciation towards your partner.
There is no denying that being appreciated makes us all feel good. You should keep in mind that you should appreciate your partner for all that they do for you, even a small gesture such as taking out the trash when it was your turn. This will motivate them to further go out of their way to please you.
Similarly, you should also return the favor and give them a chance to thank you every once in a while as well. Moreover, make sure that you also show your affection towards your partner throughout small deeds throughout the day such as sending them an ‘I love you’ text at work or slipping in a love note into their bag.
Such small acts make one feel affirmed and desired which in turn develops a strong bond between the partners.
5. Accept each other for who you are
We are all humans, and we sure do make mistakes. No one is perfect, and we all tend to carry flaws. When you choose someone to love, you need to be able to love even their imperfections and accept them the way they are.
You should not try and change the individual according to your own needs and instead focus on their qualities to remind you of why you choose this person to get married to.
Couples tend to learn a lot through the course of their marriage and grow into better versions of themselves as long as there are love and trust in their relationship.
Marriage is all about compromise, trust, and honesty. A happy couple carries mutual love and respect for each other with each of them aware of the fact that their significant other is always going to have their back and support them through thick and thin.
However, being able to reach this level of marital satisfaction requires time and hence, it is good to introduce the healthy habits mentioned above into your relationship even before you step into married life.
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