Life was a lot less complicated when ‘choking’ was either ‘blocking something,’ or, ‘killing someone,’ and ‘sex’ was just ‘lovemaking.’ But, things got intricated as we grew up.
Now, the complete mashup of terminologies and acronyms leave us baffled and make us wonder. The growing mix and match madness has not only penetrated our wardrobes but has also silently slipped between our sheets.
Couples display their acrobatic skills in bed and bring their fetishes inside their bedrooms.
But, who could have thought that choking someone during sexual intercourse can take a person to the verge of ecstatic orgasms?
Then again, sex is an art, and you need skills to take your partner to the exhilarating level of ecstasy. And like all learned skills, one needs to practice harder to perform better in bed. After all, “practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect.”
But, bringing violence into your sex life seems quite a morbid idea. Yet, the porn sites are filled with videos on BDSM, MILFs, Teen sex, Stepmom, and Incest relations. Though ‘choking sex’ is not distinctly categorized, this type of sex practice is one of the most common acts across the mentioned categories.
You may be surprised by the fact that these porn sites draw the maximum traffic in the digital media.
Then again, how can something as painful as choking a person end up giving another person pleasure?
To get an answer, let’s dig deeper into the subject.
Choking sex or erotic asphyxiation: what is it?
Wikipedia defines choking sex as an ‘erotic asphyxiation (variously called asphyxiophilia, hypoxyphilia or breath control play)’, which, ‘is the intentional restriction of oxygen to the brain for the purposes of sexual arousal.’
Obviously, there is different psychology that works silently behind this growing tendency amongst the youth who derive pleasure from hideous and monstrous videos like ‘choking sex,’ ‘bondage and torture,’ and so on.
But, why someone experiences pain and humiliation willingly in the name of sex?
This sadomasochist trait in humans has often baffled many. People have tried to justify this grotesque behavior. For example –
Dr Gail Dines, the anti-pornography activist, and professor at Wheelock College in Boston, recently tweeted that choking women is all the rage. It’s branded as fun, sexy ‘breath play’.
Likewise, Ian Kerner statement published in Women’s Health Magazine also reflects on the abnormal human psychology that gives birth to such freakish sexual behaviors.
“The rush of breath that comes after being choked releases endorphins, which combine with the neurochemical cocktail of sex to create a feeling of heightened exhilaration,”
Dr. Ian Kerner is a sex counselor, psychotherapist, and the author of the book, ‘She comes first’.
What is the whole point in getting yourself choked to near death?
Dr. Christine Milrod’s statement published in ‘The American Conservative’, is the answer to the above question.
Having a man’s hands around your neck plays into the fantasy of being taken, also known as ravishment.
Dr. Christine Milrod is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California.
Are you getting high already? Then you need to hear this
Erotic asphyxiation or choking sex is one of the most dangerous autoerotic activity. Cutting down or reducing the supply of oxygen to the brain triggers an altered state of consciousness in the perpetrator. The victim often dies from an overdose of asphyxiation or the inability to terminate the means of enjoyment.
And guess what?
The highest number of deaths due to choking in the United States was 5,051 in 2015.
Time for a reality check
Dr. Debra Laino, a sex/relationship therapist, however, stated that “often, we do things sexually because we know it turns our partner on. That fact in and of itself can be a turn on for us—knowing that we (our bodies) are supplying the pleasure.”
She further goes on to say that, “the control of taking someone’s life (breath) away and then giving it back to them is exhilarating for some. For some, it is the depth of lovemaking, which includes a different level of trust and intimacy.”
On the other hand, Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones cautions the readers that ‘choking sex’ can be fatal if not practiced with care.
She says that “this can be a dangerous pleasure. Never use alcohol or drugs when engaging in this play.”
Remember, choking sex can become highly addictive and as with all addictions, can leave an individual with a craving of needing more and more to satisfy them.
You can derive extreme pleasure through excruciating pain. It is agreed that such psychology cannot be deemed as normal. Still, if pain during sex takes you high, then why not practice it, but safely?
So next time, if both you and your lover enjoy taking that extra stride when it comes to practising wild sex, you better take care not to allow your aggression and pleasure blind your senses.
Okay, enough said! As consenting adults, you will know what works best for you.