Life was a lot less complicated when ‘sex’ was just ‘lovemaking.’ But, things got intricate as we grew up.
Now, the complete mashup of terminologies and acronyms leave us baffled and make us wonder. The growing mix and match has not only penetrated our wardrobes but has also silently slipped between our sheets.
Couples display their acrobatic skills in bed and bring their fetishes inside their bedrooms.
One of those desires in the bedroom involves choking their partner during sexual intercourse. If this is your cup of tea and you are careful, this practice can take a person to the verge of ecstatic orgasms.
Sex is an art, and you need skills to take your partner to the exhilarating level of ecstasy. And like all learned skills, one needs to practice harder to perform better in bed. After all, “practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect.”
The porn sites are filled with videos on BDSM, MILFs, Teen sex, Stepmom, and Incest relations. Though ‘choking sex’ is not distinctly categorized, this type of sex practice is one of the most common acts across the mentioned categories.
You may be surprised by the fact that these porn sites draw the maximum traffic in the digital media.
Some people wonder how does choking a person ends up giving another person pleasure?
To get an answer, let’s dig deeper into the subject.
What is choking sex or erotic asphyxiation?
Wikipedia defines choking sex as an ‘erotic asphyxiation (variously called asphyxiophilia, hypoxyphilia or breath control play),’ which ‘is the intentional restriction of oxygen to the brain for the purposes of sexual arousal.’
Obviously, there is an explanation behind this growing tendency amongst the people who derive pleasure from videos and practices like ‘choking sex,’ ‘bondage and torture,’ and so on.
The sadomasochist trait in humans has often baffled many. People have tried to elaborate on the reasons behind these behavioral choices. For example –
Dr. Gail Dines, the anti-pornography activist, and professor at Wheelock College in Boston, recently tweeted that choking women is all the rage. It’s branded as fun, sexy ‘breath play.’
Likewise, Ian Kerner’s statement published in Women’s Health Magazine also reflects on the abnormal human psychology that gives birth to such sexual behaviors.
“The rush of breath that comes after being choked releases endorphins, which combine with the neurochemical cocktail of sex to create a feeling of heightened exhilaration.”
Dr. Ian Kerner is a sex counselor, psychotherapist, and the author of the book ‘She comes first.’
What do partners prefer being choked?
Dr. Christine Milrod’s statement published in ‘The American Conservative’ answers the above question.
Having a man’s hands around your neck, plays into the fantasy of being taken, also known as ravishment.
Dr. Christine Milrod is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California.
Keep the practice under check
The highest number of deaths due to choking in the United States was 5,051 in 2015.
Erotic asphyxiation or choking sex is one of the most dangerous autoerotic activities. Cutting down or reducing oxygen supply to the brain triggers an altered state of consciousness in the perpetrator. The victim could die from an overdose of asphyxiation or the inability to terminate the means of enjoyment.
However, Dr. Debra Laino, a sex/relationship therapist, stated that “often, we do things sexually because we know it turns our partner on. That fact in and of itself can be a turn on for us—knowing that we (our bodies) are supplying the pleasure.”
She further goes on to say that “the control of taking someone’s life (breath) away and then giving it back to them is exhilarating for some. For some, it is the depth of lovemaking, which includes a different level of trust and intimacy.”
On the other hand, Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones cautions the readers that ‘choking sex’ can be fatal if not practiced with care.
She says that “this can be a dangerous pleasure. Never use alcohol or drugs when engaging in this play.”
Remember, choking sex can become highly addictive, and as with all addictions. It can leave an individual with a craving of needing more and more to satisfy them.
So next time, if both you and your lover enjoy taking that extra stride when it comes to practicing wild sex, be cautious, and take care not to allow your aggression and pleasure to blind your senses.
Okay, enough said! As consenting adults, you will know what works best for you.