The enjoyment of sexual interaction between a couple never changes. However, the type of sexual interaction does.
It’s often an overlooked phenomenon that can cause a lot of anxiety in a relationship especially because it may seem as though the interest in sex may have waned for both an older man and woman, but that is not the case at all.
Sex with older men changes – it’s different but frequently misunderstood.
If you’re having sex with older men, we have listed some of the crucial factors that everybody should know. Understanding these factors will ensure that you enjoy a healthy and happy sex life for many years to come.
1. Erections are hit and miss
In your younger years, when you were dating younger men, you may have never had to deal with erection problems, and so, when you first experience them in your later years or if you are dating an older man it may come as a surprise that you take personally.
It’s important to realize that it’s not you.
It’s just life and nature, blaming yourself will only create a problem that didn’t need to be there in the first place.
If you can accept this issue as a normal part of life, you might help to assist with resolving the problem too, since it will reduce your man’s anxiety.
Blame yourself and letting your older man know you are blaming yourself will only compound the problem, potentially ensuring that you never get to experience sex with older men!
The truth is as a man becomes older his ability to raise an erection becomes erratic for natural and normal reasons. If you are about to participate in sex with older men, aside from not blaming yourself here are some tips that you can use to help your man stay in the game.
- Increase the amount of vigorous stroking.
- Avoid trying to use sexual fantasies as a form of stimulation – they don’t work as well in older men.
- Try to avoid distractions halfway through your sexual interactions.
- Opt to massage him sensually to help him relax – it’s common that the problem of hit and miss erections causes anxiety which adds to the problem.
- Practice patience; your older man can’t help the situation and pushing them won’t make a difference.
Tip: How to identify erectile dysfunction
If you are having sex with an older man and you find that his erections are hit and miss, as long as he manages to have an erection you can be safe in the knowledge that he doesn’t have erection dysfunction.
However, if there’s no erection at all, that’s when you might want to start researching how to manage erection dysfunction.
2. Premature ejaculation makes an appearance
If you are having sex with older men, you would probably assume that premature ejaculation was a thing of his past – perhaps occurring when he was in his early adulthood, but you’d be wrong.
It can also occur when you are having sex with an older man too.
Premature ejaculation affects a lot of men throughout their lifespan. It’s a common problem and one that you have not avoided if you are having sex with older men.
Anxiety is cited as the main cause of premature ejaculation, both in young and older men. In young men anxiety is triggered by their performance, in older men, it’s whether their erection will step up to do the job in hand.
Interestingly this means that if you are having sex with older men you might get more opportunity for foreplay and sensual activity than you might be used to.
Mainly because if you can remove the focus away from penis-centered sex and more onto sexuality you’ll relax your man and through this relaxation and trust he’ll be more able to enjoy an erection without anxiety.
It’s a win-win situation when you think about it. Which leads us nicely onto the next important factor to consider if you have sex with older men.
3. Intercourse is not as important as you think
Both older men and women have their issues with intercourse, we’ve discussed the problems with an erection, but even women struggle with vaginal dryness that even the best lubricant can’t always solve.
So instead, sex with older men turns into sensual pleasure, which includes oral sex, sex toys, and so on and it is reported to be a perfect replacement.
Switch your expectations a little to accommodate a new sexual style
A man’s sexual pace even begins to match a woman’s as they get older – it slows down.
In some cases, you can see how sex with older men could become more erotic, sensual and fulfilling because it’s not just focused on penis based penetrative sex.
The rule of thumb here is that sex with older men is very different to sex with younger men but both can be as fun and indulgent as each other and in all situations, managing your man’s anxiety leads to better sexual performance and more fun for you.