One of the mysteries that men have always wondered is “How does it actually feel for her?”, but luckily the answer to this question might be attainable by the use of modern technology and a little bit of more study into the anatomy of the mind and body of a woman.
Although at the emotional and psychological level sex means different things for a woman, we can at least try to pierce the veil of the unknown by using neuroimaging and answer the question, at least at a physiological level.
In recent years, there have been some studies that have researched and documented some of the key differences between men and women in terms of sex and orgasms using a combination of state of the art neuroimaging techniques.
What happens in the brain?
This is indeed a fascinating question, one that raises some interesting points about human sexuality and also sheds light on what sex feels for women.
A paper written in 2009 analysed various studies of the brain that used PET scanners to check what parts of the brain were activated during stimulation and an orgasm.
The results on heterosexual males and females were first compared, and orgasm, the parts of the brains of both sexes that were affected were nearly identical with one another.
From a neurobiological point of view, the brain of men and women appreciate the orgasmic experience in approximately the same way and intensity.
That does not mean that the total experience is identical, but that this is only the brain’s response during the event of achieving an orgasm.
It is interesting that in the same study the marked differences were noted in the response to tactile stimulation of the clitoris and penis that leads to the orgasm: “The left frontal-parietal areas (motor cortices, somatosensory area 2 and posterior parietal cortex) were activated more in women, whereas in men, the right claustrum and ventral occipital-temporal cortex showed larger activation.”
On an anatomical basis, while the structures of the male and female genitalia seem to vary widely in their appearance, there is a dramatically similar distribution of the nerves that drive sensual messages back to the brain, and in the arrangement of the central point of much of the sexual experience in both sexes (the clitoris in women and the penis in men).
Even the prostate gland in men that secretes the antigen PSA has a companion in female anatomy called the Skene’s gland, which secretes the same.
The distribution of nerve cells is comparable in both males and females. The pudendal nerve (two of them, one on the right and one on the left) travels into the anogenital region within the pudendal canal, where it separates into branches.
The first of it becomes the lower rectal nerve and then the perineal nerve (which supplies sensation to that area between the genitals and the anus. It supplies sensation to the anal opening, the scrotum in men, and the labia in women, and it is also responsible for the swelling of the penis and the clitoris, and even responsible for the spasms of ejaculation.
We’re more alike than we realize
In the end, the clitoris and the penis have more in common than most people appreciate.
While the clitoris is small compared to the penis, the clitoris runs a significant distance along the anterior vaginal wall, and its stimulation during intercourse can be both directed externally or internally with proper positioning.
At a sensorial level deep in the brain, neuroimaging has shown us that areas in it spark pretty much the same in it. The parts in it that are responsible for pleasure are almost the same for both sexes.
Emotionally, things might differ, because a woman is exposed and vulnerable to being used during intercourse. As men, we can only understand the anatomical part of how sex actually feels for a woman, but on a deeper level, the question, what does sex feel for women, will forever remain a mystery for us.
There are many social, cultural, personal, and even religious influences that can influence the appreciation of the process, but overall, from the many biological perspectives that have surfaced, the feeling of having sex is overall the same.