A lot of men take pride in their ability to please a woman. Since puberty, it is a favorite past-time of the male teenage horndogs to gloat about their conquests. The stories are embellished or great works of fiction when they are young, but the older they are, the closer it is to the truth.
It’s a phase, and most men grow out of it. Some don’t, but those perverts are not the topic of this blog. This post is about sexual performance anxiety and how those stories, watching too much porn, and bad feedback can affect a man’s ability to pleasure a woman.
All men are not equal
In as much as many people claim that all “men” are born equal, they are not. Some men have genetically more attractive face and physique. Some manly tools are more equipped than others.
There are also those with more experience in terms of quality and frequency. Sexual performance anxiety comes from a lack of confidence in themselves. Like most types of anxiety, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy from mental and emotional weakness.
There are a lot of things a person cannot change, but some, such as appearance, physique, and experience can be resolved with a proper diet, exercise, and practice.
Boosting confidence will help relieve sexual performance anxiety. The question is how? Here are some tips on how to overcome sexual performance anxiety.
A lot of sexual performance anxiety stems from their inability to continue after a short romp. Cardiovascular health can improve greatly with exercise. A sedentary lifestyle from working long hours in an airconditioned office greatly affect stamina.
High impact physical activity at least 3-5 hours a week will prevent further deterioration. 8-12 hours a week is needed to return your body to optimal condition. The more you can do, the better. It’s not necessary to go to the gym. There are a lot of cardio-exercises available on TV and Youtube. If the weather is good, you can also jog outside.
Increasing your overall health will also increase sperm production. A healthier body will not only increase libido, it will also provide ammunition to go a few more rounds.
Smoking is the enemy of cardiovascular health. Every benefit you can get from exercising is negated by smoking. The more you smoke, the more it impacts the body negatively. Try alternative forms of nicotine intake such as nic-gum and vaping to help quit smoking, and slowly weed off nicotine addiction entirely.
Smoking is also one of the reasons for bad breath. The smell also sticks to hair and clothes. A smelly partner is unattractive, and a lot of women will count that against your final score.
Eat natural libido producers
A lot of food are natural aphrodisiacs. They prevent erectile dysfunction and reduce sexual performance anxiety. Here is a short list of natural foods to increase libido.
- Dark Chocolate
- Green Tea
- Pumpkin Seeds
- Fish Oil
- Red Wine
Watch your weight
Obesity lowers testosterone. It is the hormone that’s primarily responsible for erections and sex drive. There are plenty of studies correlating belly fat and bad sexual performance. A larger body is also prone to exhaustion. It is also more susceptible to stress and depression. All of which could lead to a lower sex drive.
Sexual performance anxiety is also a subconscious manifestation of low sex drive. A healthy and fit body will let instinct take over and give you the confidence and ability to perform.
Male performance anxiety solutions
Confidence and instinct are both controlled by the Freudian Id.
The same can be said with anxiety. Actual performance and anxiety are correlated, but it’s not set in stone. Like a teenage boy that thinks he is God’s gift to women, but can only do it for five minutes.
Men with sexual performance anxieties either do not have enough experience or women said bad things about him. All of that can change with single mind blowing experience. A healthy body is just the first step, not only will it make a person attractive to women, it does a lot in actual performance.
A modern woman will not hesitate to make the first move. However, they won’t just sleep with anything with a pole. You have to be someone women want to sleep with. Take care of your appearance and everything will happen naturally. You can even arouse a long time partner if you make positive changes in your looks.
It’s understandable to have performance anxiety with a new partner. A lot of men are not up to the challenge. Confidence can be faked, but that’s easier said than done. That is why a healthy body and high sex drive can help. If the woman is desirable enough for you, instinct will take over.
With enough practice, any man can gain enough experience to have real confidence and overcome sexual performance anxiety.
Giving your partner the time of her life
Great sex is about give and take, and unless your partner is a paid service worker or a slave (both of which are illegal in most countries) It is a man’s responsibility to pleasure a woman. Sex is about self-gratification, but if you can pleasure a woman beyond her expectations, you can experience repeat business without having to work for it.
There is a lot of flirting involved to get a woman to open her legs.
There are constant communications, gift giving, dinner dates, and flowers. Do not waste all that effort by leaving her unsatisfied when she finally sleeps with you. Take pleasure in watching a woman enjoy your actions. Talk dirty if necessary. Pillow talk, even if it’s not real, will make any man overcome sexual performance anxieties. Get her to talk like a porn star and respond.
The lack of experience and confidence will naturally go away once women are comfortable with you. They will gladly return the favor for your own satisfaction. So relax and focus. Don’t think about anything else other than pleasuring your partner. Everything else will happen naturally.
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