There’s no denying that sex is one of those topics that will always entice the general interest. However, it doesn’t hurt to mention that talking about sex was considered a taboo in many countries and cultures only several decades ago.
Consequently, it gave birth to various misconceptions that are still alive and kicking.
Surprisingly enough, not only are these myths common for virgins and inexperienced individuals, but also for full-blown adults and older single people who’ve decided to give senior dating another chance.
In that name, we’ve decided to list the top 5 most common myths about sex and debunk them, so we suggest you keep reading if you want to find out more.
1. The size and shape are crucial factors
This is, without a shadow of a doubt, the most common misconception about sex and, ironically, men are the ones who are keeping it alive.
Most guys think that bigger or longer is always better, but it’s not. First, a long penis is not something a woman necessarily wants to see. Second, experienced ladies and women who know a thing or two about sexual pleasure are more into shorter and thicker penises.
In fact, a survey published in the Journal of Sexual Health reported that 56.5% of women were successful in achieving orgasm irrespective of penis size.
Long and thin is simply not something that can fulfill (pun intended) their needs.
Also, a huge penis can cause a lot of pain and most women don’t enjoy being intimate with a man who has a big phallus. So, whether you’re a man with an average sized penis or a woman who dates a guy with an average package, you should consider yourself lucky.
2. Chocolates and Oysters are major turn-ons for couples
You can often hear couples making suggestions about using Chocolates, Oysters, Red Wine, and few others to create an aura of romanticism and set the mood on for an electric after-date.
No study has never really proved that oysters and chocolates carry sex stimulating elements in them.
But, Dr. Mike Fenster stated that “Oysters provide the essential mineral necessary for testosterone production,” Dr. Fenster is a cardiologist and author of the book, ‘The Fallacy of the Calorie.’
Another research published in Food Research International showed that women who ate dark chocolate on a daily basis experienced a higher sex drive than the others who did not. Experts believe that the presence of phenylethylamine, a chemical, usually known as ‘the love drug’, is responsible for triggering feelings of contentment.
Then again, there are hardly any facts to prove that these chemicals are directly contributing towards boosting up your libido.
Still, if you think that eating a piece of chocolate can make you crave for more sex or it is the presence of aphrodisiac in the food that triggers such sensations, then so be it.
3. You don’t have to waste money on condoms, just pull it out on time
Thanks to the laziness of careless people, the oldest contraceptive method or the pull-out are still very much alive.
Namely, most guys believe that they don’t have to wear a condom if they manage to pull out their penis before they ejaculate.
Now, besides the other obvious dangers, like various STDs for example, this particular method is not that efficient because of the thing called pre-ejaculate fluid. Repeat after us – women can get pregnant from pre-ejaculate fluid!
This is why the pull-out system doesn’t work, but unfortunately, a lot of guys these days convince their partners otherwise.
4. There’s no chance a woman can get pregnant while on her period
False! Even though some people, especially guys, consider period sex to be rather unappealing, there are also couples who enjoy intercourse even if a woman is on her period.
One of the main reasons for this is a man’s belief that his girlfriend or wife can’t get pregnant while she’s on her period.
However, this is not always the case. Yes, women are more likely to get pregnant during their ovulation, which occurs 14 days after the start of their last period, but given that every woman is different and sperm can live inside a woman’s body for 5 days after the intercourse, there’s always a chance a woman can get pregnant after an unprotected sex during her period.
5. Casual sex is always better than marriage sex
Casual or no-strings-attached type of sex is practically a trend nowadays.
People don’t want to get emotionally invested and are looking for a good time without any kind of responsibility.
However, the question has to be asked – are these booty calls really better than a marriage sex? Hardly.
You see, to have a good, passionate, and satisfying sexual experience, you need to have a special bond with your partner. In most casual relationships, people are simply not that close, which often makes sex rather impersonal.
In long-term relationships and marriages, on the other hand, the two lovers are bonded, which makes their sex life intimate and passionate. Therefore, if you’re looking for an exciting sexual experience, you might want to consider entering a romantic relationship.
6. All orgasms feel the same each time
Sensations in your body do not feel the same every time.
To think, orgasms feel the same each time you end up in bed with your partner is nothing short of faking the orgasm altogether. Kait Scalisi stated that orgasms could feel like a subtle whisper in the first attempt to bursting out into an ecstatic explosion in the very next attempt. Kait Scalisi is an intimacy educator and founder of PassionbyKait.com.
She observed that there are different external and internal factors working silently to either check the orgasm from building up or damper the emotions to mild down the sexual climax.
Research also shows that each orgasm feels different if the point of penetration is different. So, it is time to debunk the myth forever.
7. Your sexual experience should look like those in porn movies
This is also one of the most popular myths, especially among the members of younger generations. No wonder about it because pornography plays an important role in their lives, which means that most of them are trying to imitate the moves, scenarios, and language from those pornographic movies.
To be quite honest, you can learn some cool moves from these films, but a real-life sexual experience often doesn’t look anything like a porn movie and that’s perfectly fine.
Remember, you’re not actors, so it’s normal to be clumsy, especially if you’re having sex with someone for the first time. Some people try to hide their insecurities by imitating porn stars and that’s usually awkward for the other person. That’s why you should always act natural.