If you or your partner is struggling with online pornography addiction, it is very likely impacting your marriage.
With pornography readily obtainable and free in many cases all over the internet, it is no wonder that sex addicts most commonly refer to the web as an easy source that feeds their addiction. With so many website catering to sex, an addicted person can feel that they are floating in a black hole with no way to exit. In addition to passive pornography such as viewing images, a troubling dependence on person-to-person cybersex can also evolve. As a matter of fact, cybersex is the highest grossing sexual industry over the internet.
With internet filtering software becoming more and more sophisticated and affordable, it can be a valuable tool in the suppression and recovery plan for a sex addict that relies on the internet for gratification.
Many of today’s top browsers like Chrome, Bing and IE offer options for placing free filtering addon’s from their stores. These are useful in blocking pornographic sites when using those different browsers. Instead of installing extensions for each browser, many products are on the market that will totally block pornography no matter what browser you may be using at any given time.
Here are some filtering options to block pornographic websites and potentially help your marriage as a result.
OpenDNS is a web company that provides free tools to block sites. All you need to do is go to opendns.com and follow the instructions to open an account. You will be taught to change the default DNS server in your network connection. Once you do this, you will be rewarded with faster and safer internet browsing that will block the pornographic site that an addict might visit. If your family uses the same computer, OpenDNS also offers a simple to use Family Shield option in which you don’t have to customize the filtering, yet any website containing pornographic content will be blocked.
Net Nanny, McAfee Safe Eyes, K-9 Protection and McAfee Family Protection are all industry leaders that offer comprehensive packages of filtering. They can be used on multiple home computers.
Along with blocking pornography, these software products will also monitor PC games, help block undesirable email accounts you may have been in contact with, instant messaging to parties you longer want to be in touch with and even allow remote access interfacing.
Covenant Eyes is a unique service that provides much more than Internet filtering. Their “Accountability” service will not only filter but send a daily report to a person, therapist, case manager or recovery coach that you trust to provide a report on all the sites you have visited that day.
A suitable filtering or blocking software can place pornography out of sight and out of mind when you access the internet. This can be a crucial first step to recovering from your sexual addiction, avoiding destructive behavior and, more importantly, returning to a lifestyle of healthy living.
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