Physical Intimacy is an integral part of marriage. Marriage in some form or another exists in all culture during the entire human history because it is the foundation of one of the most important aspect of species survival, procreation.
Without children, human civilization and species have no future. Without physical intercourse, there won’t be any children. There’s no need to explain this further, since anyone old enough to be in this blog, should know where babies come from.
But what happens if there is a large disparity of sex drive between couples. Libido is not equal among individuals, and there is always a possibility that one party has way more sexual desire than their partner. Is one partner going to sacrifice for the other? Resisting sexual urges is unhealthy, but it will also be physically and mentally tiring for if the person with the lower libido to give way all the time.
There are many solutions, but what we recommend are good for your body and your relationship. Here’s how to increase sex drive to match your partner and have a more fulfilling intimate relationship.
1. Get physically fit
There is a correlation between overall body health and sexual drive. It is part of the survival of the species trait built deep within our genes.
The healthiest and strongest individuals are in the best position to foster and protect their offspring.
Modern human society is more complex, and the requirements for nurturing children are far more advanced. But at least, we won’t have to worry about Diego the saber-tooth tiger coming in the night and kidnapping toddlers.
But that instinct is alive and well, physically fit individuals have a higher sex drive and perform better in bed. A strong body doesn’t just increase the desire to procreate, but the ability to do the deed.
So eat healthily, sleep well, exercise, and drink your supplements. As soon as your health improves, your sex drive will also improve.
Stress in any shape or form is mentally tiring. The more you are mentally strained, the lower your sex drive.
Like physical health, mental stress affects males and females equally.
There are many ways to reduce stress, and one of the best ways is to share it with your spouse and deal with it together. Once you’re relaxed, the mood is set for something intimate.
Learn to compartmentalize your stress, Negativity sources are everywhere and it can build up then explode in everyone’s faces. Do not bring work stress at home and vice versa. Lashing out against people will only add more stress, especially if they fight back, then it becomes a vicious cycle.
Relax, clear your mind. If the mind is healthy, the body follows.
3. Stop smoking and other bad habits
Healthy living and eating natural aphrodisiacs such as avocados, chilis, and honey can go a long way in improving your health and sex drive.
But the opposite should also be the same, refrain or completely stop habits that are bad for the body.
Smoking relaxes the mind. At least for a few minutes, then the nicotine withdrawal will make you fidgety and ruin the temporary relaxation you got from a good drag. It also damages your cardiovascular system that lowers your overall health and sex drive.
A sedentary lifestyle (watching too much TV, or spending a lot of time on the computer) means you have very little physical activity will also lower your sex drive and ruin your health in the long run. Rest and Relaxation are good, but doing it as a lifestyle, even if it’s work related is bad for the health.
A relaxing moment sets the mood, help your partner unwind, it is one way on how to increase sex drive and relieve their mental stress.
Variety is the spice of life.
So there has to be a way to spice up your sex life while remaining loyal to a single person. Fortunately, there is role-playing.
It may sound silly at first, but I suggest you give it a try.
One reason why couples in long-term relationships lose sex drive is boredom. Sex has become a chore, the same old, same old. It’s still pleasurable and fun once it gets to a certain point, but it has lost certain appeal because the foreplay and flirting part is gone and predictable.
Newlywed Japanese wives wear nothing but an apron to greet their husband from work, it’s an urban legend, but one can imagine the effect if it was true. Fact or fiction, role playing out fantasy scenarios can spice up the sex life of any couple. Roleplaying, even just spoken role play, breaks the repetitive sex that long-term couples all suffer from. Full roleplay is guaranteed to be lots of fun and rekindle your sexual desire for each other.
Change your image and boost self-confidence
In boot camp, there’s a saying, “If you start dressing like Marines, you start feeling like Marines. If you start feeling like Marines, you start acting like Marines”. The concept is fairly easy to grasp.
If you pamper yourself and do makeovers to look sexy, you feel sexy. If you feel sexy, your sex drive increases.
Dress yourself up like you are single on a predatory hunt, even if you aren’t. You can look sexy, remain loyal to your mate, and feel sexy. Spend time once a week or at the very least once a month in the spa. Get your body cleaned in ways, not normally possible alone.
Cleanliness is next to Godliness, but once your body is clean, refreshed, and scrubbed, it’s normal to think naughty. Lords name not in vain.
There are other ways on how to increase sex drive that is not as healthy as the ones we recommend. Drinking alcohol, eating chocolate, and watching porn can help. But those can either backfire or can be bad for your body, or both.
There is no point in increasing your sex drive and ruining your health. It is not sustainable in the long run, and if you’re a bad drunk, things may even end up in embarrassing ways. Increasing your libido the way nature intended does not only works great, but it will also make you a better partner in bed.