Husband Porn: The Stealth Like Influence That Can Destroy a Marriage

At first glance, it can be difficult to determine whether husband porn has positive, neutral or negative effects on marriage.

Some people might consider the act of husband porn to be shameful and disrespectful to the husband’s spouse while others might believe husband porn to be a great foreplay idea to arouse your husband and way to enhance the sexual interactions within the marriage keeping it alive.  

However, the picture is much bleaker than that.

While there are couples who claim that husband porn does not affect their marriage yet, there is significant evidence that husband porn can have dire and devastating consequences on a marriage.

Consequences that often lead to divorce

Studies undertaken by the American Sociological Association claim that married couples who start watching porn are highly likely to be divorced in the years that follow than those who don’t.  Plus women who started watching porn are three times more likely to split up from their spouse!

It seems as though husband porn may seem to be innocent to some, even acceptable but could turn into the rotten apple that destroys all intimacy that you have ever built between you within your marriage.   

How does husband porn influence marriage negatively?

Husband porn has been proven to make many watchers less satisfied with their spouse’s sexual performance, curiosity, affection and even physical appearance.

Also, many porn users over time grow more cold-hearted toward females generally, are more likely to develop distorted perceptions of sex and sexuality and become less likely to value monogamy, intimacy, and marriage.  

The above, are all severe consequences for a seemingly innocent activity!

It seems as though husband porn tends to reprogram the viewer’s perspective, leading them to be less romantic or loving about their sexual interactions with their spouse.

Perhaps even causing them to become critical and to develop unrealistic expectations on their own sex life. It certainly isn’t conducive to intimacy.  

And the information we include here is just from one study. There are so many more studies on the effects of husband porn, all with similar outcomes that lead us to believe that husband porn is a slippery slope that no marriage if each spouse values it, should access.

Is there any way that husband porn can be ok in a marriage?

Allowing husband porn into a marriage is a risky strategy, but porn appears to have a less negative impact on marriage if couples watch it together.

What’s the difference between husband porn and watching porn together?

The most significant difference is that isolation and individual expression of sexuality brought on by husband porn is removed from the marriage and is instead replaced with couples porn.

Couples porn is the act of deciding, together with your spouse, that you want to watch pornography together as a form of sexual intimacy and foreplay.

This act screams intimacy.  On the other hand, husband porn is the husband, taking time away from his spouse to engage in sexual activity alone.  This act screams isolation.

Isolation in a marriage

Any form of isolation in a marriage is going to present problems

The state of your sex life can be an indicator of a problem with husband porn or whether watching porn together could form a healthy part of your sex life, but it’s probably safe to say that it’s beneficial if you and your husband are both aware of the damaging effects of husband porn.

So that you might find a way around this problem should it crop up, and so that your husband has the opportunity to make conscious choices about the risks he wants to take on the marriage.

This way, if the husband porn brings problems into the marriage, the wife or spouse of the one watching ‘husband porn’ is not deemed to be nagging, uptight or insecure when they are raising a genuine problem.

It will also keep you both focused on the relationship and bring up any critical topics that should be discussed to the forefront of the relationship rather than suppressed behind distance, husband porn and a lack of intimacy.  

What are you meant to do when your husband starts preferring porn to you?

Like anything in life, there should be a fine balance in the relationship between trying new things and realizing when there is a problem.

If that balance is not there nor the respect for effects that husband porn can have on the marriage and your husband’s interactions with you have become colder and less intimate it’s time to call in the counselors so that you can steer your marriage away from choppy waters.

Remember there will never be a substitute for real love and intimacy.