Sometimes we all hit the wall when it comes to our bedroom action. There are times when we just need some fun sex tips to conveniently land on our lap so that we can inject some life into our lust. Especially during times when we are flat out of ideas, inspiration, and enthusiasm.
Perhaps some of the reasons why fun is often left out of the bedroom could be down to a lack of enthusiasm, busy lifestyles, contentment as you are, boredom, not feeling sexy or because couples don’t want to upset the routine of their life, and laziness.
But is it possible that you are either not considering, or are afraid to change the narrative of your sex life? Do you fear initiating change? Are you unsure what sort of change to bring into your sex life or are you even aware that you need to do something sometime soon? Or perhaps you are wondering how on earth do you go from 0 to hero and make it fun when you’ve been happily slopping on the sofa together in your PJ’s while watching Netflix for the sake of watching Netflix – not in the hope that it turns into any ‘hanky-panky.’
One thing is for sure, you are not on your own if you want to bring in some lighthearted fun into your sex life, when did sex become so serious?
To help you get started share this article with your spouse (who will probably get the hint) and read on to find some fun sex tips to lighten the load in more ways than one.
Stop being so ‘meh!’ about your sex life
Here’s a fun sex tip, stop being so serious about your sex life and stop acting like it shouldn’t exist. If you are married, it should exist, and it should be vital and vibrant and as much fun as enjoying a road trip together.
For some reason we often forget to prioritize sex, we make it a chore, and we are so serious about it.
One of the best fun sex tips we can give you is to both decide right now to start with the intention of making sex fun.
Laugh during sex, pinch each other’s bottoms every now and again, get cheeky about how sexually alluring your spouse is. It will lighten the mood, lower the tone appropriately and take the pressure off both of you so that when you hit the sack (and we don’t mean to sleep) you are both looking forward to what’s to come rather than feeling like a hopeless virgin teenager.
Stop faking it
One of the biggest problems with couples who want to increase the fun in their sex life is that they are often not honest with each other and many will carry on faking enjoyment rather than light heartedly guiding your spouse into helping you to enjoy yourself more.
If you let your spouse think you enjoyed something that you didn’t enjoy this means that now you are going to get more of it! And that’s not going to be much fun for you.
This is why our second fun sex tip is to get real and stop faking anything that isn’t feeling good to you. Enjoy the process of really understanding each other’s bodies, seek the treasure and learn what pitfalls to avoid.
Take a light-hearted approach, see it as an adventure, not as a personal weakness and who knows what fun you’ll have as you explore each other candidly.
Switch it up
Our third and slightly unusual fun sex tip is to try to switch things up.
Make a list together of all of the sexual novelties that you might like to explore. Consider fantasy, food, location, sensation, clothing (including dressing up), games.
Even if you dread doing something commit to giving it a whirl with your spouse and to do it with a light heart and in good humor.
Consider researching and making lists such as:
- A list of fantasies you’d like to indulge in
- A list of sexual or sensual games you’d want to play, a bucket list
- Types of sexual antics you can get up to before work
- Places you’d like to enjoy each other in
- A list of sex toys to try
Make your lists realistic, decide who’s going to lead, agree to be non-judgemental and to promote trust and intimacy always and enjoy the thrill of exploring the world sexually.
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