A lot of men suck at foreplay. A lot of married men are particularly incompetent when it comes to turning on a woman. We can’t blame them for wanting to go for the cherry right away. Very few people in the world want to work for what they want.
Orgasms are also called climax for a reason. That’s the point where sex is so intense you momentarily forget anything else exist in the world. The wave of pleasure during orgasm is enough to forget your own name, too bad it only lasts a few seconds. So it’s quite understandable that nobody wants to do a lot of work for a few seconds of bliss.
But is that it? Aren’t there any foreplay tips for him to make things better? If there are foreplay tips for him with pictures, that would be a lot better.
Sex Expert Tracey Cox in her Dailymail.uk and Maxim article claims that women enjoy sex more than men if they have multiple orgasms. Oral and clitoral stimulation help a lot for her to reach this stage. An overwhelming majority of women also have problems having an orgasm with just penetration sex.
Is great sex all about men doing all the work? No, of course not. But for a woman to go blind by having awesome sex. Then yes, the man has to do a lot of work.
But why is it all about the man? Women can do a lot in bed too!
It’s simple. Men have a physical limitation when it comes to sex. The number of times they can have an orgasm is limited. Most of them will need to rest before they are able to continue after one or a few ejaculations.
So to thoroughly satisfy a woman, a man has to control himself. He needs to keep a woman swimming in pleasure while staying within his limit.
Is it necessary? No.
Does he want women to describe having sex with him as a mindblowing experience? Then yes.
A woman can contribute a lot during sex. However, it would be harder to control a man’s limit with the woman on top.
The best foreplay tips for him
Every man knows how to please a woman. That is a myth and a joke. It’s even possible to have good and bad sex with the same person.
Some men are so bad at sex that they can’t satisfy anyone. Why do you think women learned to fake orgasms? Because women are nice and don’t want to tell the man they love that having sex with them isn’t as good as it should be.
Here are some foreplay tips for him.
Pleasure her entire body
Each person has more than one erogenous zones. They are different for each person, but for women, here is a list of potential pleasure points.
- Belly Button
- Butt Crack
In case you haven’t noticed, it’s a long list. Touch, stimulate, kiss, lick, or blow each one and see if she how reacts to it.
Now that you have a list of potential ero-zones. Kiss them. Long passionate French kisses are just as intense for a woman as penetration sex, well maybe not, but almost.
Kissing also frees up the guy’s hands to do something naughty. Junior can rest while kissing and both hands can pick up the slack.
Clitoral kissing can also induce orgasms for women. There are cases where it can help a lot for women who have problems climaxing. According to a study, 75% of women have orgasm problems with vaginal sex alone. If your wife/girlfriend belongs to this overwhelming majority and you can consistently make her cum, then you are pretty much a Sex God in her eyes.
Use food or toys
It sounds kinky because it is. But it works. I will leave this to your imagination. But I can create a list of food and drinks that you can use for foreplay.
- Bottle of beer
- Bottle of Champagne
- Bottle of Wine
- Whipped Cream
- Chocolate Syrup
- Ice Cubes / Tube Ice
- Ice Cream
Experiment and use your imagination. It’s part of the fun. Using special toys are self-explanatory.
Men and women love massages. I have not met a person who doesn’t enjoy a form of massage. The problem with massages is, it’s a skill.
Like all skills, it needs practice. Then again, that shouldn’t be a problem. Massaging each other is a great stress reliever. You can learn basic skills over Youtube. It is enough to get started and make it pleasurable for your partner.
That list is not comprehensive, but it is enough to get started to suggest these foreplay tips for him. It’s awkward to discuss foreplay even with longtime partners. You’re just going to have to get through the hump and open the topic.
Men love sex and do not have qualms talking about the subject. However, they are uncomfortable talking about their inadequacies, especially about their “performance.”
You can always take the reins and lead. Ask for what you want in the heat of the moment. Take control of the situation before things heat up too much and instinct take over. Having sex with the same person for a long time becomes a routine. Break it. There are a lot of good things to say about routines, none of it applies to a having a great sex life. These foreplay tips for him can help rekindle boring sex.
A boring sex life is still physically gratifying. However, it will create cracks in the relationship when both of you crave for more. These foreplay tips for him may prevent that from happening. A couple with a playful sex life is closer and more satisfied. Besides, it’s a man’s job to please his woman.
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