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8 Signs Your Partner May Have a Porn or Sex Addiction

8 signs your marriage partner may have a porn or sex addiction

Many spouses of sex addicts have difficulty trusting their “gut instincts” that something is wrong in their relationship. If unfamiliar with the traits of a sex addict, they may never have been concerned about their behavior during the marriage’s earlier stages. Sex addiction introduces distrust into their lives, which can lead to confusion and fear about how this will affect their marriage as well as their personal identity. There are defining signs that a problem with your spouse’s negative behavior is taking place.

 

These include:

1.  Changes in sexual behaviors — Your husband or wife may be less interested in sex, may not be able to maintain an erection during sex, or may be pressuring you to act out specific sexual fantasies.

 

2. Financial red flags — You may notice charges on your credit card statements for hotel rooms, massage parlors, or strip clubs. You also may see an increase in cash withdrawals from bank accounts.

 

3. Increased time spent online — Your spouse may state they need to “work late” on the computer more frequently. You also may notice the browser history has been erased.

 

4. Online chats through social media sites — You may have discovered that your spouse or partner has been using new apps or programs to contact people and to send inappropriate messages.

 

5. Spending more time alone, or away from home — Your spouse may stop attending social events and family gatherings. Your partner also may be encouraging you to spend more time away from home.

 

6. Emotional changes — You may notice an increase in your spouse’s anger and irritability if things don’t go their way.

 

7. Increasingly unreachable — Your husband or wife may be unable to account for periods of time when they are unreachable. They might state that their phone battery died or they didn’t have reception.

 

8. Possessive or preoccupied with their phone, tablet, computer — You may discover multiple phone numbers or email accounts for your spouse. Passwords may have been changed without your knowledge.

 

If your spouse has demonstrated one or more of the above behaviors, it may be time to seek support. Before an addict enters recovery, they often deny and manipulate the truth in a desperate attempt to keep their addiction hidden. We understand how scary this situation can be, and it may be difficult to know what to do or who to turn to for help.You are not crazy or alone.

 

There is hope.

  VERIFIED EXPERT
Amanda is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist - Candidate at NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, which helps individuals affected by sex addiction. She completed her Bachelor's of Science degree in Psychology from UCLA and her Master of Science degree in Counseling with an emphasis on Marriage and Family Therapy at California State University, Long Beach.

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