It can be really troublesome for any person to grow with toxic parents.
From childhood to adulthood, it can be a thoroughly painful journey for anybody under the custody of a toxic parent. Such parents are not easy to deal with even for children that are all grown up.
Toxic parents do not let their children be independent of them. It is very difficult to get out of the clutches of toxic parents even when you are trying hard for it. It is indeed a matter of great influence upon your life.
If a person has lived through years under the growing influence of toxic parents, they are likely to become used to it. In any case, it’s not a piece of cake to move out of a toxic house even after being able to live on your own.
It does not prove to be a doddle for any kid or adult with a toxic parent. Obviously, you can’t divorce your parents; there is no legal way to break ties with your parents.
However, the following are ways of getting out of the clutches of such parents once and for all.
Minimize dependency to the least possible extent
As soon as you start realizing that there is something wrong with your parents, or the equation between you and your parents is not okay; just make up your mind. Decide on things. Do not let their wrong influence ruin your life.
If you depend on your parents for every little thing, you are likely to be exploited in any possible way.
It is good if a child realizes things at an early stage of life. When things get worse, they automatically leave a strong impression on the child suffering from toxic parenting.
Such children become mature before the right age in most cases, because they are able to sensitize. They can feel more. They can understand more.
You understand; you can’t accept
In most cases, a child is able to realize the wrong treatment of their parents.
Yet that very sensitive and intelligent child is unlikely to do away with trauma. The tragedy is too big for a little heart to ignore or take in stride. At a young age, a person is not equipped with enough willpower to accept and live with an ugly truth like this.
Hence, the realization comes quicker; acceptance comes slower.
Move to a hostel to have an independent life
If you are a smart teen and you are capable of doing basic stuff for yourself, do not let your toxic and controlling parents be on the driving seat anymore. If they have been handling your life since forever, do not let it continue.
Do not let them steer your life in the very wrong direction.
If you are somewhat able to do chores, make yourself food, take care of the basic needs, just try and ask your parents to send you to a hostel with a healthy environment. A 14-year-old is capable of handling himself to a decent extent, they can feel the tragedy, and are able to evaluate it properly.
This is the right time to show some guts and say goodbye to a toxic home.
Rent a different house for yourself
If you are above 18 and you have to live with toxic parents who often spell nags on you, better know that you are legally free to live a life of your own choice.
Economic independence is paramount
As long as you’re financially dependent, you cannot get rid of toxic parents this easily.
You need to undo the influence which keeps pulling your strings. Go out and start working for a good wage, rent a separate abode yourself, and settle down in life. Peace will be the reward, thereafter.