It is the said that the secret ingredient to every relationship in life is always love, but sometimes love alone is not enough.
Love transcends into divine self only when it is fueled with an adequate blend of resilience, empathy, courage, and care.
Love is the hallmark of parenthood, which serves as the foundation for nourishing children in order to grow them into sane individuals who are capable of taking responsibility for their actions and growing into productive citizens of the society.
It is believed that the children of narcissistic parents often suffer from an emotional breakdown, low self-esteem, and mental trauma but the truth is that such children are acquainted with the unbelievable potential of resilience as well.
They are equipped with the art of surviving the challenges and beating the odds even in dysfunctional situations.
We can be ‘swallowed whole’ by the person we love.
The narcissist parents
Narcissists are equipped with a huge sense of arrogance, admiration, self-praise, and excessive pride. Therefore, they tend to be authoritative parents who live in their deluded world of perfection.
They can be tricky to handle; thus their children need to be highly skilled with the art of smoothly dealing with the adverse conditions.
Effect on children
Children of narcissist parents are the product of childhood trauma, used to toxic love.
They live in their little frightening alienated world. Oftentimes, they perceive all people as artificial or mean just because they have to face narcissists in their routine life.
Such children should squeeze in some time for meditation, exercise and mentally healthy activities which can cement their traumas and heal them.
Being served with conditional love throughout the life builds up certain distinguishing characteristics in children like:
Fear of intimacy
People around narcissistic crave for closure and fulfiling relationships, but their past events prove to be a huge hindrance in their relationship life. They yearn for perfect partners, but at the same time, they are fearful of intimacy.
Taste for toxic people
Such children may be fortunate enough to engage in a relationship with someone who respects and values you.
In most cases, they are more likely to be emotionally wrecked on some level of their consciousness, so they develop a liking for toxic social predators which account for their damaged relationship experiences which make them less prone to attachments.
People surrounded by narcissists develop self-destructive coping mechanisms.
They grieve their past by living in the danger zone, engaging in challenging activities or being open to threats. Meanwhile, they learn the art of negotiation, conflict resolution and the art of rescuing themselves.
Such children are most likely to be socially awkward because they express themselves in a way that others perceive them anything but narcissistic, unlike their parents.
That is why they trample in gatherings and feel a need to clarify their intentions and social interactions. They are simply afraid that they might be a narcissist themselves.
Givers by nature
Such teens are wired with immense unrecognized potential. They are talented and socially tough beings because they are used to even tougher situations in their routine family life.
They give their 100% attention, time and effort to things they work on and try to be an epitome of positivity.
Journey to healing
On the bright side, children of narcissist parents are remarkable warriors and fighters.
They do not give up easily. As a trauma and abuse survivor, they are open to pave new paths for their healing journey. They may be addicted to certain habits to cope up adversity; however, they are fighters by nature, they value the struggle and try to be empathetic with others.