New Year’s Resolutions aren’t meant to be achieved. Not in any real or meaningful way anyway. Let’s face it, new year’s resolutions are about “Do-overs.” Redos. Another chance at a different way of life, a better life, or even a new life.
Everyone knows that losing weight won’t create the perfect “ life, yet we all imagine that if we could really, I mean, like, for real finally lose that historical but oh so still very relative baby fat, last ten or holiday weigh?
Well, then that could be something! No, it would not mean the beginning of the perfect life, finally!
Nor would it mean an end to the millions of other problems we never make resolutions about. Losing that weight wouldn’t even mean feeling relief long enough to show it off, because the second we achieve it and I know I’m not alone here, that’s the signal to joy steal our way back to deli for some wedge fries and away from LAs 24 hour Gold Crunchy Gym.
It could be something worth fighting for. It could mean, a New Year’s Revolution!
Ok, so would take to have maybe not a perfect life, but a more satisfying one. One that has more satisfying relationships, more meaning to your job or career, a chance at more internal calm?! Well, if finally losing that weight could be the catalyst to achieving that?
Then yeah, losing weight as my resolution is a no brainer.
And that’s exactly why people rarely, if ever, achieve that objective from Jan 1 through Dec 31st. The only connection to achieving that kind of objective? The objective of achieving enough internal calm that your relationships and therefore life in general, becomes personally satisfying is to do the kind of inner work that It takes to achieve said goal.
You have to be willing to reach out, and ask for help
Help in rethinking some of the major assumptions that have governed your life. This is what creates, establishes and remains consistent enough to sustain.
A resolution can jump-start a process like that, but it is not the whole enchilada (sorry, too soon?) But what can happen with a New Year’s resolution is to make it something you add to instead of subtract from your daily routine.
Drink more water.
Take more emotional risks at being vulnerable and go to therapy. Be more encouraging to your self and others.
Those kind of resolutions are not only more sustainable, but they can also give you a head start in that rethinking part of the change I spoke about.
By adding instead of subtracting, habits become a natural means of expression, and New Year’s Resolutions become as relative as those extra pounds – a thing of the past.