If you got a group of 50 married couples together, from all walks of life, and you ask them if they consider marriage to be a spiritual type of relationship, we’re pretty sure that most of them would say “yes”. That’s because the majority of people living in America do have some sort of faith system that they adhere to. That being the case, when it comes to evaluating the state of your marriage, it’s always a wise idea to pay close attention to its spiritual condition.
If you’re not quite sure how to properly evaluate the state of your marriage, you’re in luck. Below is something that we call the “spiritual marriage fitness quiz”. It’s comprised of 10 questions that will help you to grasp a greater understanding of how healthy the spiritual part of your marriage actually is.
1) Do you pray as a couple?
Matthew 18:19-20 speaks of the importance of two (or more) people coming together in prayer. If you and your spouse do not make it a point to pray together consistently, it could be causing some division in your relationship; perhaps without you even noticing it. Prayer is simply petitioning God for your needs while also seeking him for direction (Proverbs 3:5-6). It’s a wise and practical practice for all marriages.
2) Do you give each other prayer requests?
I Thessalonians 5:17 tells us all to “pray without ceasing”. This means that even when you and your spouse are apart, there should be a “spirit of prayer and petitioning” that you’re doing on one another’s behalf. In order to do that, it’s a good idea to have a list of one another’s personal and specific prayer requests.
3) Do you worship together?
There are lots of published reports which state that it’s important for husbands and wives to worship together. Not only is it time that they can spend together, but it also sends the message of spiritual solidarity and oneness too.
4) Do you have devotional time together?
Some people make the mistake of only spending spiritual time together on the weekends while at church. However, it’s also paramount to spend daily devotional time too. Some of the benefits of having devotional time with your spouse is gives you time to study the Word together, it brings the two of you closer as a couple and it can help you to (re)discover the Bible’s design for marriage.
5) Do you have a healthy intimacy life?
I Corinthians 7:5 states that the only time a couple should not have sex is if they have mutually decided to pray and fast. It goes on to say that sex is what helps to keep (sexual) temptation at bay. The Message Version of I Corinthians 6:16 takes the importance of sex a step further by telling us that it’s a spiritual mystery as much as a physical fact. “Being naked and not ashamed” (Genesis 2:24-25) is not a biblical recommendation. It is a godly command. And with it, there are not only physical benefits but also a spiritual purpose too. It helps to establish oneness between two people. In a marriage, it’s extremely vital to the husband and wife’s overall spiritual condition.
6) Do you discuss spiritual matters?
When you’re married, it’s really easy to get caught up in the day-to-day needs of the household. But it’s also a good idea to make a point to talk about spiritual matters as well. Ask your partner how they are doing spiritually, if they feel like they are close or far away from God and what you can do to help to make their spiritual life stronger. The better a person is spiritually, the better it is for their marriage overall.
7) Do you know the biblical roles of husbands and wives?
The Bible is quite clear about the roles a husband is to play as well as a wife. Some of the Scriptures that offer insight include I Corinthians 7:1-24, I Peter 3:-17 and Ephesians 5:22-33. Sometimes marriages becoming frustrating because the couple does not have an understanding of what their position actually is. Studying the biblical roles of marriage can provide quite a bit of insight.
8) Do you feel comfortable sharing your weaknesses?
If you read Ecclesiastes 4, verses 9-12 is entitled “The Value of a Friend”. Your spouse should definitely be one of, if not the, closest friend that you have. And as your friend, you should be there to love them, affirm them and hold them up; even during their moments of weaknesses. After all, wouldn’t you want them to be able to do those same things for you?
9) Do you understand the biblical definition of love?
There’s absolutely no way that we could write up a spiritual marriage fitness quiz and not mention something about the Love Chapter. By reminding you and your spouse that love is longsuffering, kind and endures until the end (I Corinthians 13:4-8), it helps to keep your relationship spiritual sound and focused.
10) Do you both agree that divorce is not an option?
The best way to avoid divorce is to mutually decide that it is not an option. Malachi 2:16 speaks on the fact that “God hates divorce”, in part, because of how it profoundly affects families. All marriages have seasons of challenges and struggles, but by making the decision to remain committed no matter what, not only does it speak volumes about the sacredness of your marriage, but the spiritual condition of the two people involved too.
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