Most of us (or some of us, at least) have experienced in our life the feeling of being betrayed by one of our spouses. In a survey done by Trustify last year, more than fifty-five percent of males admitted to committing adultery on their partner with more than five different other persons, while fifty percent of women admitted that they did it just once with one single person.
Another study done in 2015 by Christin L. Munsch detailed the factors which determined individuals to cheat on their spouse. The survey was done on almost three thousand people, on individuals aged between eighteen and thirty-two.
It was found from the results that the more economically dependent one is on their partner, the more likely the chances are that they will cheat on them.
This factor was more prevalent in men, with fifteen percent of them having admitted full dependency of their partners in the survey, in comparison to only five percent in the questioned women.
From a reproductive evolutionary point of view, knowing how to spot a cheater can be validated as being an evolutionary feat. It is advantageous for a man to learn how to spot if his woman is cheating because he wouldn’t want to invest in another man’s child. For a woman, it is valuable to know if her man is cheating on her because then her children might be at risk of improper care or abandonment.
In recent years, the role of social media has also dangerously contributed to the rise of infidelity.
In a study done by Russell B. Clayton, active Facebook and Twitter users are more prone to be engaged in extra-conjugal relationships than less active users.
Once a cheater always a cheater
Most people who have coquetted with infidelity usually stop after their first slip, because they realize that what they had done was bad and that they hurt their partner, but not all of them learn their lesson.
A person who has cheated in their previous relationships is at higher odds to commit the act again in their next one, compared to individuals who have stayed faithful in their past affairs.
Lack of communication
When you feel that your partner is considerably more aloof and distant towards you with no reason for a longer period of time, the time has come to think better of what’s actually going on in your relationship. It could mean that your partner is cheating on you.
Trust your instinct
Most of the times, trusting your gut can be the most accurate tool that you may have at your disposal.
Although we want to catch our partner in the act, we also want to believe in their sincerity, because we love them. Piercing through a shady partner’s deceptions through a sharp objective analysis on them can sometimes be the most effective way of spotting their infidelity.
Expression and body language
If you decide to eventually confront your partner, always try to be aware of their expression and body language.
Most people when they feel insincere or have feelings of guilt or regret are often times unable to maintain constant eye contact with their conversation partners.
They tend to feel anxious and to avoid the other person’s gaze because they feel uncomfortable about their deed and dishonesty.
In poker when a player is bluffing the other players at the table can detect them by finding their “tell.” A “tell” is a minor gesture or facial expression which unmasks the player’s lie, but regular people also have one when they are being dishonest. An increase in leg movement while someone sits down, constant fidgeting with the fingers or with small objects nearby, all of these can be seen as body language clues which lead to the unmasking of the individual’s dishonesty. ‘Once a cheater always a cheater’- this saying may be true for everybody but it is safe to conclude that the people who have committed infidelity once, are likely to do it again.
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