Trust is an essential requirement for any relationship to work. The whole relationship is destroyed if there is no trust. It breaks hearts and makes it difficult for a faithful partner to ever trust anyone, leaving them disheartened.
Cheating is one of the biggest relationship deal-breakers and is even considered a sin. Whatever the form of cheating, whether it was a one-time fling or a long-term love affair, women can find it very difficult to forgive and forget an act of adultery.
Research analyzing responses from 13,030 people nationwide found that men are more likely than women to hold more favorable attitudes about extramarital sex.
You may never know why your partner cheated; however, there are various excuses you’ll hear from cheating men.
When men are caught and confronted about the reason as to why did they cheat, they come up with silly excuses.
Some may blame their partners, or some may just pass it off a mistake or blame it on their drinking habit. Here we will discuss some excuses you’ll hear from cheating men when they are caught.
1. Denying the cheating episode
It is the easiest excuse to deny the cheating act completely. It may help the cheating men to give relief to their partners as they might believe them and be content with the fact that their relationship is still intact.
Cheating men go a long way to hide their affair. They might even indulge their friends as a false alibi to ridicule your claim.
2. Questioning the partner’s mental ability
The one thing men tend to do when accused of cheating is that they, in turn, accuse their partner of being out of their mind. They make them feel like all of this doubt is in their head and manipulate their partners.
Gaslighting accusers is one common practice. They just don’t deny any error on their part but also try to manipulate their partners into thinking as if they are out of their minds.
3. They are just friends
When men are caught cheating with either colleagues or just random women they are involved with, they try to brush it off by saying that they are just good friends and that there is absolutely nothing between them.
4. It just happened once
When men are caught red-handed and can’t use any other reason, they try to justify the horrid act by saying that it happened once thinking that it will make everything okay.
But as they say, ‘Once a cheater always a cheater,’ they may intentionally lie about it and may continue to have an affair outside of the relationship.
6. It was just a fling and didn’t mean anything
Telling that it was just physical and nothing else and will never happen again. But it doesn’t change the fact that it was a betrayal. For men getting sexually involved outside a relationship isn’t that big of a deal.
7. All men cheat
Justifying his indiscretion by pointing fingers at others not only undermines your worth but is also a very childish behavior.
Yes, men do indeed cheat, but not all men. Instead, they stick to their promises. They know the consequences that their infidelity can have on their partner and their relationship.
It’s not unnatural for men to be in a monogamous relationship; he might try to convince you otherwise.
Infidelity in life is a choice that some men embrace, and some don’t and has nothing to do with how men are built.
8. I was thinking about you the entire time
Another excuse that cheating men make after getting caught is that the person they cheated on reminded them of you, and even though he was unfaithful, it was someone who looked or seemed like you.
Such statements are an obvious attempt at emotional manipulation. This is a person with little or no guilt for their actions and tries to condone them by trying to make you a part of it.
Also watch: Why men cheat.
9. Too drunk to remember
The intent behind such a statement is to convince you that he was not of sound mind when he made the decision. He wasn’t himself and wasn’t even aware of what is happening.
If drinking after driving can land you behind bars, then how can it be a good excuse for men caught cheating.
You do not forget the person you love after getting drunk. Drinking gives you the courage to reveal your true self, and if disloyalty is what comes out, then maybe you should consider taking a sabbatical from drinking.
10. Playing the sympathy card
Last, but certainly not the least, is your cheating partner acting like the victim to gain sympathy. They may tell that they were emotionally helpless and were seeking comfort.
Or how the other person took advantage of their emotional vulnerability is one of the many reasons they will try to justify their act of adultery without being blamed.
Always remember that a partner cheating on you is not your fault.
Although there is no perfect way to prevent something as serious as adultery as it happens for several reasons, the best thing you can do is have a good conversation with your partner about your current relationship status.
You can talk about your expectations from each other and what you consider cheating and what may hurt you.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.