With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, some couples start to feel the pressure of ensuring their partners feel loved and supported.
While that’s never a bad thing, the fact it is the focus only on February 14 is the issue. Couples should strive to connect, support, and show love throughout the year. Often this is harder than we may like it to be.
For couples who are trying hard to build the connection with their partners this Valentine’s Day, can try out a simple connection challenge game. This simple challenge has the goal of changing the unconscious feelings within the marriage toward more positive and intentional connected ones.
The game of challenge for couples
During the week, both partners in the relationship are to commit to one another to do 3-4 things intentionally for the other person to feel appreciated, loved, respected, special. However, they are not to tell their partner what they do.
The actions should be free or very minimal in cost and spread throughout the week.
During the week each partner is to keep track of what they think their partner has done during the week- but don’t ask about the actions.
At the end of the week, the couples need to sit down with one another and share what was noticed of the other doing. The couples may not guess correctly what was done during the week. But, that is fine.
The goal of the challenge
The goal is not to guess necessarily correctly but to change the way in which the partners see one another and receive one another. After guessing what was done, share what was actually done and why those actions were taken.
Outcome of the challenge
During this challenge, the couples are slowly changing their mindset about how they show affection for their partners. Such a game will eventually change their mindset to seek affection from their partner and expect to receive it. This is a way of turning in toward one another and loving intentionally throughout the week.
The end of the week connection will give the couples a way to follow up on the behaviors, validate efforts, and continue to connect.
Connect with your partner throughout the year and not just on Valentine’s Day
Couples need to work on ensuring their better half feel loved and supported not just for a day, but for the year around. If the connection is not building in your marriage, then trying it for day won’t work.
Couples can try this game of challenge throughout the year, not just on February 14, as a way to build up the strength, thought, and behavior patterns within a marriage.
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