People often say that the marriage was doomed to fail. Is that true? Are there predictors in a marriage that can determine if it will fail?
According to a bunch of research, there are some factors, that if they exist in a relationship, usually means that the relationship is doomed to fail. Keep in mind though that these are only tendencies and not concrete evidence that a divorce is coming.
We have tried to mention six different predictors of divorce to warn you that your relationship is doomed:
1. Lack of trust
Trust plays a huge factor in any relationship, especially in marriage.
If you feel like you cannot trust your partner with anything and you find it hard to depend on them anymore, then it might lead to a failed marriage.
A couple needs to be able to trust each other no matter the circumstance. If there is no trust between the couple, then they cannot stay with each other.
2. Changed priorities
If you feel that the priorities of your partner have changed regarding what they want from the relationship, then it might be the end of the relationship.
If you think that your partner now refuses to be involved in shared activities or refuses to connect on an emotional level, then the relationship may be coming to an end.
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3. Failed to bring out the best in you anymore
In your life, you will find yourself behaving differently around different people. In front of some people, you are more reserved whereas in front of others you are closer to being your true self.
That is also true while in a relationship. The person that you are with should bring out the best version of yourself. Your partner should make you want to be a better person.
If that was once the case, but now that has changed it might mean trouble.
4. Not helping you to grow as a person
The responsibility of a partner lies in how they can help you grow as a person.
The difference between happy couples and unhappy couples is that happy couples go after the issue and the unhappy couples go for the person.
People in a healthy relationship never attack their partners. They face the issue and talk it over. If you feel like your partner is constantly blaming and belittling you instead of correcting the mistakes that you might make, then that might mean that there is a separation coming.
5. Unwilling to fight together
This is one of the biggest determiners of whether the marriage will be a success or end failure.
A couple should have each other’s backs no matter what. They should be willing to fight for each other against all the odds and should never blame each other for the problems that they currently face. They should rise to the challenge instead of falling short of the mark.
If it feels like you are fighting the battle alone, then it might mean that the marriage is coming to an end.
Marriage is all about teamwork and helping each other.
You both should have the mindset of “us against the world,” and if you cannot think like that with the person that you married, then the marriage is doomed to fail.
6. Lack of financial compatibility
We might not like to admit it but financial compatibility plays a huge part in any relationship. If one partner is not happy with what they have and they feel that what they have is not enough then the marriage cannot succeed.
It is important to keep in mind that material comforts are higher and lower for different people and if you cannot meet those same priorities then the marriage cannot work.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.