It’s been researched that there are five basic personality qualities that are predictive, about both emotional and sexual satisfaction within a marriage.
The “big five”, as they’re called, consist of:
Openness to experience
From a definition standpoint, neuroticism is anxiety and volatility, versus emotional stability and confidence, conscientiousness is either persistence and responsibility, versus sloppiness and laziness, agreeableness is friendliness and empathy, versus hostility and insolence, openness to experience is creativity and curiosity, versus intolerance and rigidity, and extroversion is of service and urgency, versus indecision and shyness.
The positive sides of these dualities again all equate to a positive romantic, intimate, and satisfying marital relationship. These traits are actually genetically based, so they’re predisposed from birth.
The first one neuroticism, interferes with the relationship satisfaction in multiple ways. Neurotic people are highly reactive to stress so therefore prone to experiencing negative emotions. This does not go well in a relationship.
The impact on both sexuality and intimacy, on the other hand, high levels of conscientiousness and agreeableness, are predictive of very good relationship satisfaction.
Trust is an important component of these qualities.
Openness to experience is another positive area for marital satisfaction, though it appears from a cultural and sociological standpoint, that no matter how open people are to experience, it is the female partner in a marriage that determines the frequency and happening of the sexual relationship.
Extroversion is the other quality that is strongly predictive of a good sexual intimate life. Extroverts tend to be happier and more socially connected and are more spontaneous. They also tend to be better adjusted sexually than introverts. There is one downside to extroversion and that’s the area of adventurism, this could lead to potential infidelity, if a person doesn’t have good impulse and boundary control.
So these five areas are not the only determining factors for a good romantic intimate marriage, but surely play a significant role too.
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Ron is an experienced psychotherapist who extends services to individuals, couples, groups and families. His area of specialization is treating Men’s issues, treating adolescents with Oppositional Defiance Disorder and marital therapy.
He has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Tampa, in Florida. He has an MS degree in Counselling Psychology from Nova University, Florida. He has another MS and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Miami Institute of Psychology. Additionally he has a second Ph.D. in Psychology, specializing in Men's Issues and Adult Development from the Union Institute in Ohio.