Many couples are hesitant to engage in marriage counseling because of the negative perceptions the word “counseling” can bring. It can be difficult to look past what others will think and take the plunge to improve your marriage. If you and your partner are considering marriage counseling, here are three ways you can continue to work with your partner after you complete your sessions.
1. Improve Communication Skills
The current strain in your relationship is most likely coming from a communication issue. During couples’ therapy, your counselor will help demonstrate better communication methods for you and your partner to work on. Once these methods are adopted, continue to implement them into your daily habits with your partner. As time goes on, talking about your feelings and worries with each other will become easier.
Always present your feelings to your partner in a safe place. When your spouse responds, make sure that you are actively listening when they are expressing their feelings to you. These few details could drastically change the outcome of the conversation and leave you both with a feeling of being valued and supported afterwards.
2. Learn How to Care for Yourself and Each Other
Taking care of yourself can be hard. When you take care of yourself, you are able to take care of others better. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Remember to relax and spend time with those you love. Building better relationships with friends and family will also help you value the time with your partner more. Once you have filled yourself back up, allow your renewed energy to extend into caring for your partner more.
Marriage counseling will help you figure out how you can best serve your partner and do things for them that they would really appreciate, as opposed to wasting your energy on something that may not be received well. Go out of your way to plan date nights or relaxation time with your partner as you would with your best friends or family. As you keep caring for your partner, your relationship will continue to move forward in the right direction.
3. Develop Empathy and Trust
During counseling, you and your spouse will learn how to develop empathy and trust. Take this with you as you begin phasing out of your counseling sessions. Be genuine with your partner at all times by practising loving kindness. Loving-kindness can be shown by wishing them well every morning or night. This little action shows your spouse you are aware of their personal life and care about their well-being each day.
Once you regularly show empathy to your husband or wife, a greater trust will evolve. By showing your partner that you care, it will be easier for him or her to come to you with challenges and concerns. If you have gone through a series of counseling sessions, trust between you and your partner has hopefully begun to be established. Keep that trust flowing by practising empathy and care.
The benefits of couples’ therapy should not stop when your sessions have ended. Building a successful relationship with your partner requires an ongoing commitment to the concepts learned during counseling and discussed here. Mastering these three things will help your relationship keep improving well after your counseling sessions are over.