While under orders to stay indoors, many couples are faced with the challenge of battling anxiety, restlessness, irritability, and a loss of freedom that leaves us feeling less than our best.
Also, many of us could be having a tough time in spicing things up in the bedroom.
Although these feelings are normal, we can also choose to make the best of our time together by making sure to keep it sexy. Yes, there is no dearth of ideas and things to spice up things in the bedroom.
For example, maybe you challenge each other to have sex every day for two weeks or decide to stay away from penetrative sex and only allow each other to give/receive oral sex for one month, or challenge each other to have a makeout session every weekend.
The options are endless, and the only requirement is that both of you find the challenge fun and sexy!
6. Invest in sex tech
For couples who are not living together or are separated for any reason, here’s one of the exciting ways to spice up your sex life.
Invest in some Bluetooth or Wi-Fi sex toys, and spice up your love life!
With these toys, you can still have interactive sex while 1000 miles away from each other by controlling the toy via an app or the opposing toy!
7. Go down the memory lane
This is one of the most romantic ways to spice up your sex life!
Take a trip down memory lane to remind each other of the first date jitters,relationship milestones, trips you took together, or recapture a particularly steamy time in the bedroom.
All this nostalgia will encourage those feelings to surface again and strengthen your current connection.
8. Create a yes, no, maybe list
Together, and with no judgment, create a list of any and all sexual things you can think of.
After your list is complete, go through each item and individually mark, “Yes,” if it’s something you’re into. If it’s not an option, put down a “No.”
If it’s something you’d like to know more about or are unsure of, mark, “Maybe.” This list will get you two on the same page with what each of you would like to explore.
Are you feeling too shy to create the list? Don’t worry; you can find free Yes, No, Maybe lists online.
9. Foreplay all-day
Many men and women have trouble abruptly getting in the mood and, therefore, decline sex.
One of the better ways to spice up the sex life, and to make sure the mood has been set is to think of your entire day as a day of foreplay. Do things that your partner would appreciate.
Things like doing the dishes, having flowers delivered, cooking their favorite meal, pouring your heart out in a card, verbalizing your appreciation, and looking adoringly at your partner will make them feel so loved that they won’t be able to stay away.
10. Initiate and go for it
At the end of the day, you could miss out on the above-mentioned ways to spice up your sex life and just choose to go for it!
But, initiating sex is not as easy as it sounds, though. How would your partner like you to initiate is the question!
For example, if you always just go in for a French kiss each time you’re in the mood, try asking your partner if that gets them in the mood or if they would like to teach you how they would like to be approached for sex.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Dr. Rossana Sida is a sex and relationship therapist in West Los Angeles. She works with individuals and couples that are struggling to obtain or maintain, a loving, sexually healthy relationship. Rossana offers free guides on her Instagram and video tutorials at togethernesstherapy.com.