This pandemic is creating hell in many relationships. Relationship dysfunction is happening more and more.
We’re seeing an increase in domestic violence Addiction is increasing during this social isolation caused by the COVID-19 pandemic. This, in turn, can easily lead to relationship dysfunction or abusive relationships.
So what do we do about the escalating problem of relationship dysfunction?
Below, David shared his thoughts on the pandemic and relationships.
“Last Friday, I was contacted by a couple who had been married for four months, almost five months now, who wanted to divorce.
Another couple who has been working with a separate counselor in trying to save their marriage contacted me and said they wanted three sessions with me, and if it turned out good, they would stay together, and if the sessions did not turn out good, they would divorce.
These are just two of the many calls and messages we’ve received regarding struggling relationships in the last several weeks.
So what’s causing the demise in all of these relationships? Let’s look at a few ideas to consider.
Major causes of relationship dysfunction
1. The stress of the pandemic is out of control
There are a lot of worries and stress on our platter. Financial worries, health worries, Loved one’s worries!
The fear that’s created by something out of our control can easily create relationship dysfunction, no matter how healthy a relationship is.
2. Arguing about who’s right, who is wrong
Arguing about who’s right or who’s wrong, talking about the government moves, or medical experts’ opinions regarding what we should do during the pandemic further lead to relationship dysfunction.
Another couple that contacted me had total opposing views on the whole concept of socialization and sanitization. One of them felt the need to be able to live life normally. The other one was anxious about getting the virus from their partner, who is not staying home and isolating.
These types of differences can create hell right now in so many different relationships. This is the snowball effect of relationship dysfunction!
3. Past resentments that have not been taken care of
We talk about this all the time when we’re under stress resentments from the past that we’ve never worked through will raise their ugly head and create hell with any relationship!
Since we have more free time right now, this would be an excellent time to reach out to a counselor, minister, priest, Rabbi, Life Coach, and get assistance to clean up the past in your current relationship so you can support each other during this crazy time.
Also, if you have been looking for essential tips to find happiness in your marriage, watch this video.
As I mentioned above, if you’re struggling in a relationship now is the time to reach out for help, do not make any major decisions when we’re under this kind of stress, until this pandemic has passed.
Now it might mean that you separate because the negativity is so incredibly intense in your house, and I’m okay with that, just don’t make any rash moves to quickly divorce while we’re in the middle of this insanity.
Practice patience and kindness
Allow your partner to be wrong when they’re quoting statistics that you know have been updated.
Does it really matter if they’re off in regards to what they’re saying?
The answer is ‘no’. So, we need to give people more latitude during this crazy time the world has never seen before.
If you need help, we have cut our “jumpstart counseling session“ by half, to only $50 per session, and we are working with so many individuals from all over the world via phone in Skype to help them stay centered, balanced, and as healthy as possible during this outbreak.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
David Essel, M.S. is the best selling author of 9 books, a counselor and master life coach and inspirational speaker whose work is endorsed by celebrities like Jenny McCarthy, Wayne Dyer, Kenny Loggins and Mark Victor Hansen. David accepts new clients monthly via Skype and phone sessions from anywhere.