When exchanging marriage vows both partners state that they will stick together from the day they get married for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer and in sickness and in health till death and both pledge themselves to each other. This happens when both are ready to build a stronger connection even when there are bumps in the road. Marriage gives both of them a sense of security that they will stay together no matter what happens in the future. Trust is established between the two but they must communicate with each other about issues that may come up.
Here are some communication practices that healthy couples adhere to-
1. Avoid “you” statements and use “I” statements instead
Having a disagreement is not the worst thing that can happen in a relationship but, open communication is critical to move forward. If you are in a situation where you and your partner have different ideas about a subject, it is imperative to explain to your partner what is going on – how you feel about the situation. Try not using words that can escalate the situation such as “You never” or “You always”. “You” words can easily be taken as a rejection of your partner’s feelings and make it seem that their feelings are not worthy of consideration. Instead, start discussions with terms like “I “feel that…” or “it seems to me that…”
2. Don’t bring up past mistakes
In the heat of the moment, it may not be a good idea to bring up something of the past. Yes, it may be hard to not bring up the past when you are angry or upset. But this can only serve to escalate the situation. In a healthy marriage, we want to communicate and make things better when things are rough. When certain issues come about, be very specific and don’t hint that your partner should know what you are talking about. Saying something like “You do it all the time” does not help. What does that even mean? Your significant other may not know what exactly you are talking about, so explain in terms of how you perceive a situation and allow the partner to respond. Again communication is very important. Be specific.
3. Express positive feelings
Saying how much you care about your significant other can help strengthen the marriage. A simple “I love you” can brighten the other person’s day and make your significant other feel like he or she is wanted. The small things can really mean a lot.
4. Don’t assume, communicate
Avoid mind reading in any relationship, the other person may not know what you are thinking so instead of assuming just communicate. Talk about what you are thinking.
People get married because they are happy and trust the other person they are marrying. To have a strong marriage, open, honest communication is very important because without it the other person would not know what is going on or how he or she feels. Never blame the other but discuss rationally and treat a problem as a puzzle for both of you to solve.