As a person of faith, you know that the bible is your rock, your mainstay where you can return to find inspiration, hope, and faith when life gets difficult. The bible also offers a practical and useful guide for many aspects of life – and many of the thoughts and ideas expressed there are applicable to even the most modern relationship.
The bible is also a wonderful tool for improving communication in your marriage. Within its pages, you will find many inspirational verses, some of which are directly about marriage, and some of which are not, but all of which can be used to inspire a healthier and a more open-hearted connection between you and your spouse.
If you’re looking for some inspiration, why not take some time today to contemplate these inspiring Bible verses to help with a closer approach to biblical communication in marriage (verses taken from English Standard Version).
The power of companionship
Genesis 2:18-25 tells us that “Then the Lord said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”” This teaches us that God intended for humans to have companionship and someone to lean on when they needed it. Companionship is such a vital and beautiful part of marriage. A strong marriage means you will never be truly alone, or lonely, because you know your partner is always there for you. Stay open and loving and you’ll be able to communicate clearly and gracefully no matter what life throws your way.
A good home life is important
Proverbs 14:1 tells us that “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands, tears it down.” If you want a healthy marriage with great communication, start by looking at your home life. It sounds old fashioned, but your home really does matter. A clean, welcoming home that is a pleasure to be in help contribute a positive, calming atmosphere to your life. On the other hand, a home of mess and chaos makes you feel more stressed out. Work together on keeping your home delightful for you both – maybe it’s time to tick off some of those DIY projects you’ve had in mind for a while?
Put your marriage first
Mark 10:09 says “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Your marriage should be one of the most important things in your life. You’re partners for life and you’ve committed to sharing your home and your life together. Honor that by making sure your marriage is one of your top priorities. No matter how busy you both get with life, work, family, or unwanted outside drama, don’t let it shake you from the core of your marriage. There’s nothing wrong with turning to a trusted friend or family member if you need advice, but in general try to keep your marriage private and don’t share your problems with other people.
Be mindful of your words
Proverbs 25:11-15 reminds us that “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.” This is a wonderful verse to contemplate to help you build better communications in your marriage. Words are at the heart of all communication, and the words you choose can help or hurt any situation. Whenever you have an issue or a conflict comes up, think carefully about what you choose to say to your partner about it. Look for means of expression that are gentle, kind, honest and true, and try to avoid accusations, sarcasms, and words intended to wound.
Practice the art of listening
James 1:19 tells us “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” The art of listening is often overlooked these days, but it has the potential to change your marriage on a deep level. When you learn to truly listen, you ensure your partner feels heard and validated, and you get a deeper and truer glimpse into their heart and motivations. Listen openly and without judgment and you’ll grow closer to each other and communicate better as a result.
Don’t forget to ask the lord
James 1:5 reminds us that “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” If you are facing communication problems in your marriage, remember the Lord is always there and you can always turn to him. Offer your worries to him in prayer and let him speak words of wisdom and comfort into your heart. If your partner is a fellow person of faith, you might like to pray or read the bible together. This is a wonderful way to grow closer as a couple, while growing in your faith.
The bible is a rich resource of inspiration and guidance. Turn to it today to get a better understanding of biblical communication in marriage and let it steer your course towards a richer and more loving marriage.
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