Divorce and co-parenting can be very challenging situations. Many parents find themselves swinging from one crisis to the next without ever having the time to formulate a meaningful plan. Luckily, entities that deal with a lot of divorced couples have developed co-parenting curriculums that can help protect a child’s best interests in a divorce.
Therapists often recommend co-parenting classes
According to popular psychology research findings, many divorcing parents will benefit from divorce education, family therapy, and parenting coordination.This process can help parents to decide up front what type of relationship they want to maintain after the divorce. For example, after discussion, many couples will decide that they want to be on amicable terms, while they co-parent, while other couples will decide their conflicts make it too hard to work together so they will try to minimize contact.
A co-parenting curriculum is used to get the family talking about what they want out of their post-divorce life and how they will make that work for the kids.
A good co-parenting curriculum will provide a structured format for difficult discussions. It will also help families to negotiate a workable parenting plan.The co-parenting curriculum should ensure the necessary communication for amicable sharing of parental responsibilities.
The curriculum should also address emotional needs that both the parents and children may be facing. Finally, the co-parenting curriculum should provide a mechanism for the family to periodically return to it to see how well they are doing. There are co-parenting curriculums available in book or video form that can help families that cannot afford to bring in a therapist.
State family agencies can help
Nobody sees more divorced couples than the state agencies that deal with the family law courts, and not surprisingly many of them have developed co-parenting curriculums to help families through a divorce. For example, the Attorney General of Texas publishes a pamphlet called the “Co-Parenting Guide” that walks parents through the legal and emotional elements of co-parenting after a divorce. The guide provides both important legal information and some practical advice for how parents should deal with each other and their kids.
For example, the guide tells parents not to use their children as messengers passing things like bills back and forth between each other because children do not like to be caught in the middle. The document gives parents a clear co-parenting curriculum with a series of questions to answer about where the child will live, how the child will be transported to school and activities, where the child will attend religious services, how the child will be treated medically, what the child will be allowed to do online, and so forth.
The Arizona Chapter of the Association of Family Courts has a similar publication. They strongly urge parents to practice open communication with each other. They suggest that parents use emails and text messages extensively, for example, because they are simple ways to communicate with minimal conflict and a written record. The guide also points out that both parents are equally entitled to information from the child’s school.